Comments | surreul: THATS my idea of Equality

surreul

THATS my idea of Equality

Sep 14, 2006 16:17

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In which linda claims that a woman with a masters from harvard is fucking wasted being a stay at home mom.

Yes. No duh. Thank you! First time I head someone saying/writing this.

She also writes that being a stay at home mom is not intellectually fufilling.

Feels so politically incorrect to even agree with this but I do. I've never ( Read more... )

politics, rant

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spookycat4 December 5 2006, 10:29:45 UTC

I hope you meant what you said about liking good debates in the other post. LOL ( ... )

surreul January 28 2007, 20:05:02 UTC

My sincerest apologies for taking so ridiculously long to respond to this. I can only hope that you have not completely written me off and are still willing to engage in debate. I was insanely busy at the time but since after the holidays I simply have no excuse for not responding promptly. I promise to be better in the future ( ... )

spookycat4 January 28 2007, 21:11:34 UTC

I'm so glad you commented. And, I love that it's intelligent and thoughtful and totally in disagreement with me.

The attitude that everything else is just frills, is why I think feminism will never truly be embraced by average women. I just think it's dismissive of how important mothers (and fathers) are in the development of a child. Keeping society functioning is not the only thing mothers do. And, their are things only a mother can do. Nursing (unless you hire a wetnurse), is one. Nursing offers a variety of benefits to both mother and child. And, mothers have a bond with their infants that a low-skilled worker simply can't duplicate and probably won't want to.

surreul January 28 2007, 22:28:16 UTC

I absolutely agree that a mother (or a parental figure, or several such figures) are incredibly important to a child's development. I don't think it's a disputed point that most children without love and caring in their lives don't grow up well. I just don't think it's necessary to be with a child all day long to be a loving influence and have a bond. I think that's proven by many children of working moms and working dads.

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spookycat4 January 28 2007, 21:46:02 UTC

In the case of women you are contributing to the perception that women simply don't want high powered careers because you had the opportunity for one (a rare opportunity) and then opted out ( ... )

surreul January 28 2007, 22:24:19 UTC

I think that the choices you've made have obviously been the right ones for you, as you don't have regrets. However, what you are implying is that kids of women without careers do better, this translates to denigrating women who've made certain choices which is what you say should not be done. Also, this kind of argument, one that is based on personal experience, invites refutations based on personal expeirence. I could bring in my own personal story and that of friends and acquaintances that would contradict what you're saying and it's tempting to do that. I won't, because that kind of discussion ends up being one of oneupmanship doesn't lead anywhere interesting ( ... )