Regret

[swahvay13]

Regret is an interesting idea. I used to say that I don’t have regrets. That everything that happened to me has helped make me become the person I am today, and because I like who I am today, I don’t regret how I got here. But I heard someone else say it, and I don’t know, it seems like a cheap way out to me. There are choices that, if I could

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[notquitecrazy]

The first three lines of the post could have come out of my mouth. They might have, or I might have been in the same room as you, or we might just know the same people. In any case, to me they seem the right words. I know you want to find someone else with regrets, but I want to defend my position a bit

Accepting mistakes doesn't erase regrets

[ticiasramblings]

I agree that accepting your past mistakes is often harder than just labeling them as regrets. However, I disagree that it stops them from being regrets. This summer, for instance, I accepted a job that seemed like an incredible opportunity and moved to a new city, found an apartment, changed my entire life to pursue that opportunity unfettered. As it turns out, it was the crappiest joke of a job I ever could have imagined, and I quit after 2 days. Now I'm in a city with few connections, a late start, and little chance of landing any job that I really want

You Made a Good Point, But...

[swahvay13]

You made a good point, but I disagree that you cannot have a duality in regret and acceptance. I have moved on and I have come to terms with what happened then, but that doesn't mean I automatically don't regret it. I accept my life now, with my regrets. I think that is true acceptance.

It is like saying living without regret. I would hope not to be a friend of someone who did such a thing, because then how could you trust them? They would have no regrets.