I know. That was the hardest part about coming forward with it. I know that a lot of times when this stuff is reported, people try to hand wave it by blaming the victim.
Victim blaming is so horrible. I don't get it at all. It is NEVER the victim's fault, no matter what they wore, did, drank, where they went or with whom. It's always the perpetrator's fault, why is no one ever asking: "Why the fuck did that asshole do that?"
You should be proud of yourself, for doing more than most would. You've confronted the situation and called him out for what he is. Even if people are stupid enough to think you are lying about such a thing, what he is, is out there, and people will always know. It sucks that such a thing happened to you, but you got through it, and it will get better. Just know that you're not alone, and by talking about it, you've taken the first step. (Sorry if that sounds a tad bit 'afterschoolspecial', but like your previous commenters pointed out sometimes there are no words for this, but I hope that at least the thought helps)
Thank you, anon. Sometimes I wish I didn't say anything though. There was another guy that I really wanted to be with, and I know that the attempted rapist told a lot of people at my old job that I made it up (which this other guy works at). I'm too afraid to approach the guy. I'm too scared to know if this other guy really, really believes the attempted rapist. I think it would be the diarrhea icing on the shit cake if someone I respected and cared for that much believed him. :(
I don't think you should feel like you never should have said anything. You know you did the right thing, no need to second guess yourself. I know the end result regarding the guy you like isn't something you were expecting, but all I can say is talk to him, at minimum you'll know what's going on and know where he stands on it. Maybe he didn't pay attention to him and never heard what he had to say, but if he did and believes him just like that, then maybe he just wasn't worth it. I know it's cliche, but you're young, and there are plenty of guys out there too, you'll get through this.
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*hugs* I'm sorry, it's just so upsetting ;_;
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(Sorry if that sounds a tad bit 'afterschoolspecial', but like your previous commenters pointed out sometimes there are no words for this, but I hope that at least the thought helps)
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