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[sweetdream08]

sometimes i wonder whether being a single mom is as a challenge than being a married mom. i dont know how hard it actually is to be a single mom, but some people say it's hard. being a married mom is a full time job. i have two kids. my husband and jade. if i'm home with my husband, he expects me to decide where to eat and what to eat. if i

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[chibi67]

i was talking to sean about my apprehension about having kids last night and wanted to know how you felt. i told him that my not wanting kids (at least for now) is because of my fear of how they'd turn out on account of my parenting skills. i've also got another point-of-view about raising my kids - basically the opposite from how my parents raised me. i'm not saying they didn't do a good job with me and my sister but there are things i would do differently. did you always want babies? did you have any fears/apprehensions?

[sweetdream08]

well, i never really put much thought about havings kids when i was in high school. occasionally, back in high school, i used to see myself getting married by 21 and having a baby by 22. when i got to the age 20, i thought about what i saw myself doing and thought it was ridiculous. but i somehow ended up getting married when i was 21 and having my baby when i was 22. it was like i already spoke my future without knowing

[papayainthesun]

hey. i won't even begin to say that i know what it is like to be a mom or even a married mom, but there's a lot of truth and sincerity in what you say sweetdream. being a married mom is a full-time job. we're raised with this notion that the woman handles everything domestic. and when we think about the fact that we spend 40-85% of our lives at home that's a big responsibility for anyone! we also assume that every woman is supposed to be this perfect nurturer and completely selfless and giving for everything related to her family--people forget that a mother and a wife needs equal treatment. she deserves as much love and support as she gives

[sweetdream08]

thanks. yeah, i'm starting to take a "me" day every so often. it's hard to let go, but it does help to get some space from being a mom and a wife and just hang out with the girls.