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[sweetpizza]

I wonder if I talk about Andy too much

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[swisstone]

I don't think it's wrong to bring him up. I still think about his music all the time.

[sweetpizza]

Me too!

[charleston]

Hey, I sometimes wonder this too - I mean I often find myself mentioning him & then there's always a sympathetic noise from the person I'm talking to and I wonder if maybe they think "oh you're still not over that then". But like you say it's not like that - it just feels natural to talk about him. He's still a big part of my life, even if he isn't around anymore.

[sweetpizza]

Thanks Charley. That's exactly how I feel, a bit embarrassed and yes I'm fine, he was just a big part of my life, that's all.

[sweetpizza]

I don't usually say 'my dead friend Andy'... But I mean even in my real life, like talking to you guys...

I find that including the fact that he's dead is more than I want to explain

[jinty]

To a new acquaintance I'd probably just leave it as "my friend Andy" as Jen says.

I do talk about him sometimes to people who didn't know him, like R - and of course then I'm talking to my partner about a person who is probably my most significant ex, not that it matters in some ways, because he was a friend for longer than we were actually together. When R and I were first getting together it was a bit weird talking about Andy to him, but yeah, I do it and it's fine.

Hm, yes

[sweetpizza]

But it always pops in conversation when I say that I was in a band once...

[my_name_is_anna]

I didn't know him as well as everyone else replying, but I think about Andy often too, and talk about him too. You shouldn't worry about doing it, this is how we keep people remembered : )

[sweetpizza]

Thanks Anna, that is very reassuring. I know you say you didn't know Andy that well, but I would say that if he made any impact on you then you knew him well enough...