Good grief. Yah....yah..yah--I agree. I have no idea what happened to him though as he needs to stop using words like "we" and "us". I know a lot of guys are assholes. So are a lot of women--when you cut through all the superficial stuff there are men and women that possess every trait that he's mentioned. Every trait, from only wanting sex to having image problems. He doesn't know a damn thing about me and I'll thank him to not include me in his rant. I'm out>! AWbomb
honey...i don't even king now who it was that posted that i just thought it was something that people should read....im not that every guy i like that but a good sum of them are...don't take it so personally youre not an asshole so don't worry about it :)
I would disagree mainly at the point that a "non-normative" look is considered an imperfection. We are what we are. We all have different personalities, different skills, different abilities, different physiques, and different looks.
As long as someone can convince someone else that what they are is an "imperfection" that needs to be "accepted" or "overlooked" they will have impaired relationships. The trap is a double one: If you think of yourself as "imperfect" you have a hard time accepting it when you find that person who considers you "perfect." You think they are lying, being nice, or is some way not telling you the truth. You can't accept that you have truly found the "perfect match." And if you perceive of others as being "imperfect" you never potentially develop a bad attitude which tends to be critical of people.
Of course there are looks, attitudes, etc. that you enjoy more than others. Enjoy them. Hang out with those people. But don't make value judgements because they don't look like Vogue would have them on the cover.
Comments 3
I'm out>!
AWbomb
Reply
Reply
As long as someone can convince someone else that what they are is an "imperfection" that needs to be "accepted" or "overlooked" they will have impaired relationships. The trap is a double one: If you think of yourself as "imperfect" you have a hard time accepting it when you find that person who considers you "perfect." You think they are lying, being nice, or is some way not telling you the truth. You can't accept that you have truly found the "perfect match." And if you perceive of others as being "imperfect" you never potentially develop a bad attitude which tends to be critical of people.
Of course there are looks, attitudes, etc. that you enjoy more than others. Enjoy them. Hang out with those people. But don't make value judgements because they don't look like Vogue would have them on the cover.
Reply
Leave a comment