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sweetsongstress

Utah and Baby Updates

Apr 15, 2010 00:01

Oh, LJ I've missed you. Facebook is my new easy, breezy, convenient throwaway outlet for expression and communication. I've missed being able to take my time and write more than the snappy little snippets I write in a forum that seamusd likens to a river you throw things into, never to be seen again ( Read more... )

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seamusd April 15 2010, 13:27:21 UTC

Ha! I love being quoted!

Hang in there, mom, you're doing great!

sweetsongstress April 17 2010, 06:29:31 UTC

I love quoting my quotable friends! And thanks for the encouragement!

pure_doxyk April 16 2010, 09:18:57 UTC

Good to hear an update from you! You sound well, and wrapped up in the baby-making, which is how it goes. Enjoy the shower. Bring a big car; they produce a lot of STUFF. ;)

Hang in there for Utah; remember at least it's temporary. Of course I say that having never been there and shuddering with terror at the very thought, but hey, it's the 'Net, I'm allowed to be comforting just for the sake of it, heh.

It is weird to have you having a baby while I'm having a custody-battle, though, when I think when we started reading each other's journals I was just having my baby. *boggle*

Best!

sweetsongstress April 17 2010, 06:46:10 UTC

Thanks for your comment. We're trying to make arrangements for how we will transport the gifts back home (if I do get a lot of them.) Thank goodness Vegas is kind of the midpoint between us. It makes it a lot easier to meet halfway w/ my family.

But you're... having a custody battle? With your ex husband? I am so sorry to hear that. Yes, we have been LJ friends for a while and it's crazy how much can happen within what seems like not that much time at all. :::huge huge hugs::: I'm hoping for the best for you and your daughter. I wish I could offer you words of wisdom like you've shared with me so many times. All I can say is I have faith in your strength and your love for your daughter, and I don't believe any court in their right mind would take a child away from a mother who loves her so much.

pure_doxyk April 17 2010, 13:44:05 UTC

Oo, thank you for the very comforting thought! I need it; this judge is like a huge terrifying Mystery Wizard who doesn't know me from adam and is about to decide a huge chunk of the rest of my life...augh. But come to think of it, that's oddly similar to how I felt when I was expecting a baby...like it was this giant mystery roll of the dice, and everything going forward would be affected by it.

Which is, of course, true of many things, whether we obsess about them or not. ;)

You have luck in Utah, and I'll save some for here!

sweetsongstress April 18 2010, 19:46:32 UTC

From what I have seen, unless the mother was a drugged-out, abusive crackwhore, courts tend to favor mothers. Even then--even when the father was completely clean & the mother was clearly unfit to keep her kids, it was hard for the father to gain custody. I know there has been a growing pocket of fathers' rights lawyers, especially in CA, so things might be changing, especially if your ex has a LOT of money & can afford a great lawyer. But as far as I know, you don't do drugs and you're involved in your child's life. I'm thinking things will come out good for you.