this is a thinking aloud post... read only if bored...
Andrew reminded me of an incident that happened before we started dating where he accidentally rolled my hair up into a spiral round brush and it took my mom two hours of me crying to get the hair out. Well, it made me think of how he used to pamper me by always brushing my hair or rubbing my back. He would wrestle me and hold me down and threaten to spit on me...lol.. not so romantic, but whatever. He would drive me from work to school, wait to see me inbetween classes and then walk me to the next one and then drive me home. He would just sit outside the door or walk the campus. He would drive from the beaches to see me every day in Middleburg. But he isn't the first guy to do this for me...
Charlie, after he already graduated, used to wake up at 6:30, wake me up, and drive me to high school my senior year because I had a severe case of senioritis and I would skip a lot. He drove me to the mall every day to work and would pick me up. Hell, he even left his entire family after knowing me for a whole two months to stay and be with me... that is just insane.
My guy friends, and I have had tons, would come up to my work and sit with me for hours. They all knew how to close my register and make the deposits at night. They didn't get paid at all... they just wanted to hang out. Andrew got into this habit too. If I had a sad night, one would come over at 3 a.m. and play with my hair till I fell asleep. Jordan used to pick me up from college class, drive me to lunch and the mall, and go shoe shopping with me. We went to umpteen movies and would wrestle around for hours. Charles would seriously go buy me lunch no matter where he was at and bring it to me at the mall. He bought me a gold bracelet after I lost mine and was devastated. Kelly used to let me come over any time, day or night, and just cry on him over whatever stupid guy crushed me that day. His brother, Jimmy, still will meet up with me for lunch just to talk. Andy... I don't even know where to start and end with him, but he was truly a great friend. He was the best girl friend I could ask for... he just happened to be a hot guy... Mike, my real only guy friend I have now, will literally do anything for me. He will talk to me outside the pool hall for hours when he has to get up in the morning for work after I had a bad night with Andrew or am just frustrated with whatever. He lets me confess all my dark secrets and he makes the best excuses for them... I don't think Mike thinks I have an evil bone in my body... I love that guy!! I love all my friends... it is just weird that I always thought of myself as this completely independent person. I don't need men... I just appreciate them for what they are, but by no means does my happiness depend on them... and now that I look back, I totally thrive off of them. I am Jerry McGuire!! I can't be alone!!
Now that isn't why I got married... I married Andrew becuase he was the best balance of all these guys. He used to bend over backwards for me and do whatever I asked, but he also stood me up a few times and flat out chose other girls over me at times. He will do anything for me within reason now but he also has a spine and will let me know if I am being too much of a princess. And I never wanted to be like that... and I don't think I ever was. Even though I was catered to a lot, I made it worth everyone's effort. I was great company! I would buy sometimes and I would drive sometimes... I was just spoiled by affection. And it is so weird because guys are stereotyped to only think about themselves... and I think that is true in a relationship, because they want to protect themselves, but sometimes, they are more giving and understanding that most chicks. They are far less judgemental... in the past, when I had a one night stand, and totally regretted it, they would let me crash at their house until I felt like I could show my face in public again and just let me play video games morning noon and night.
Ok, I am not sure where I am going with this... I guess that it is just hit me that I am not the independent lioness that I thought I always was. I very much needed all of them and as much as I love my girls, my guys were very important in carving out my path to where I am today! And even though I don't talk to 90% of them now, I will always care for them and appreciate all that they did for me, with me, whatever. And I think they all helped me realize what I wanted in a husband... and I found him!!! He is the best of both worlds...we hang out, we have a great friendship, and we are crazy about each other.
Alright, if you were bored enough to read all that... I am sorry... I am just in one of those moods... reminicsing about the good times and where they led me!