Comments | swirly_pie: *Insert another cold weather related whinge*

swirly_pie

Insert another cold weather related whinge

Jun 12, 2009 12:39

Some times I wonder about people in my life... Like many of us I assume, they are people you spend time with on a regular basis and you assume you know them to at least a certain degree. Over time you see them less and less til you may only see them every six months, if even that. You realise that this person you hardly ever see is someone you ( Read more... )

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nurseysarah June 12 2009, 03:26:00 UTC

On that note, it's been aaaaages sonce we caught up. What are your plans on Sunday?

swirly_pie June 12 2009, 06:07:06 UTC

I think I maybe watching some Mysterious Cities of Gold in Fitzroy North.

zenandtheart June 12 2009, 12:15:42 UTC

WHAT?! Who are you watching this with?! A seminal cartoon from my childhood!

I know what you mean about people with their defenses up. Who could be bothered? And it's so self defeating - 'I'm afraid that people are going to hurt me so I dont' let them in... oh wait, I have no real friends' DOH!

swirly_pie June 12 2009, 12:25:37 UTC

Emma, a friend of Li, Rory, Mark and co :)

I agree! I can't be bothered either. So much effort for so little outcome. I mean, there are enough people in my life who don't make it so difficult. I used to worry that it meant they didn't like me and all that crap but then I figured their loss eh?

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metaspective June 13 2009, 02:29:51 UTC

I don't think we can really know anyone since who they are depends on the situation they're in as much as it does on who they are inside. So people can seem different in different situations (including different times) even if they haven't changed inside. Likewise they can seem different because our situation changes, giving us a different perspective on something which objectively doesn't change much.

Strangely we're more or less consistent despite all that, so we can get away with assumptions about how people will behave in certain situations, or assumptions about why people do the things they do.

So the way I see it, those who drift away from each other are part of a larger dynamic system in which themselves and their environment change in a way that pulls them apart unless they're motivated enough to keep it together. Even if only through simple things like catching up every six months. :)