I have been meaning to write about this for ages but never gotten around to it. It doesn't involve any updates or life events, just more boring ramblings and musings
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I wouldn't think anyone can know someone else 100% I don't even know myself 100% to be honest.
Yes being in a relationship means you share a lot together, but unless you are in the same relationship all your life then there will be gaps.
For me the person I have the most shared history with (Other than immediate family) would be Amanda. We were reminiscing the other day about our childhood, while sitting in an RSL, now I feel old :/ Better go have a cup of tea and a biccie.
Yay! Also, that's a ridiculously cute icon, Charmaine.
I'd say there are a lot of people who know me almost as well as I'd know myself ... typing this now makes me think I'm an oversharer...AM I?!? Anyhow, there's not much I won't tell people, which comes from being with Corch and the way he is like that. I don't think being a private person is better or worse than being 'out there'. We're all different. That being said I do like knowing everything about people so you should fill me in;). Honestly, though, you're someone who continues to surprise me with things I learn about you, so that's something else that makes you so interesting.
I think the further back into the past relationship/friendships are the less important they seem, no matter how close you once were plus we (should) get more confident with age. There's a lot that happens to me now that would upset me years ago and now it barely causes a ripple.
Well if you are comfortable with amount you're sharing, s'all good. But it helps to remember that not everyone likes their personal information mentioned to others. Not saying you do it, just that everyone has levels of public disclosure they are OK with. And that's true. I guess most people are open about some things and not others. Problem with me is there are things I want to tell and after I have told a few people I assume I have told everyone. Or I just tell the same person four times in a row. Oops. Stick around baby, I'll teach you many things *wink wink*
I suppose I should clarify, while I met them a nine years ago I did spend time with them at least until a couple of years. I am just glad it is no longer a case of me not feeling good enough as frankly I'm great :D
Hmm, there are parts of me that very few people ever see and I treasure those who've noticed that they're there. There are parts of me my ex never reached, despite knowing me for 16 years: he just didn't function on that level.
Now I'm older and I've done a good job of living a rich and varied life, I think it would be hard to find someone who knows all of me, and that's ok. There are bits I don't like to share much, despite being a very open person. I'm a little bit complicated, and that's alright by me.
It's a shame that you can spend so much time with someone and they never see that side of you. I guess for me I not often emotionally raw or vulnerable around people very often so I guess if I am it means I feel like I can really trust them.
But I think lots of people that have bits they don't like to share much. There is stuff in my past that even though isn't part of my life now has shaped who I am now and some of it is really hard me to talk about.
I agree with Charmaine, I don't think it's possible to know somebody else 100%. That's not necessarily a bad thing, you don't always WANT to share absolutely everything with somebody else. A lot of time whatever's happened in your past, while definitely helping to shape who you've become, doesn't have relevance to what's happening in your life right now. I think it has less to do with being single, and more to do with your personality type. Some people share a lot, some people next to nothing, no matter what their relationship status.
Could it be that you're musing over this because you wish more people knew more about you? Because you're private you wait for opportunities to connect with people on a deeper level to come up organically, instead of manufacturing them, or just being more public with your innermost thoughts. Maybe this needs to change, if you're feeling a bit unsatisfied? Or I could be wrong and you're totally happy with the way things are right now. It's certainly an interesting subject to consider. :)
I get what you are saying but personally I don't think it's true in my case. Maybe it's because I get bored at work or on public transport and start getting all navel gazing. I guess with LJ sometimes it's a case of "This is what I think and how I am, I wonder what other people think about this thing"
At the moment I am happy about how knows what about me, but hey like anything that might change in the future :)
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Yes being in a relationship means you share a lot together, but unless you are in the same relationship all your life then there will be gaps.
For me the person I have the most shared history with (Other than immediate family) would be Amanda. We were reminiscing the other day about our childhood, while sitting in an RSL, now I feel old :/ Better go have a cup of tea and a biccie.
BTW it's not "whatever" it's "evs" :P
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I'd say there are a lot of people who know me almost as well as I'd know myself ... typing this now makes me think I'm an oversharer...AM I?!?
Anyhow, there's not much I won't tell people, which comes from being with Corch and the way he is like that. I don't think being a private person is better or worse than being 'out there'. We're all different.
That being said I do like knowing everything about people so you should fill me in;).
Honestly, though, you're someone who continues to surprise me with things I learn about you, so that's something else that makes you so interesting.
I think the further back into the past relationship/friendships are the less important they seem, no matter how close you once were plus we (should) get more confident with age. There's a lot that happens to me now that would upset me years ago and now it barely causes a ripple.
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And that's true. I guess most people are open about some things and not others. Problem with me is there are things I want to tell and after I have told a few people I assume I have told everyone. Or I just tell the same person four times in a row. Oops.
Stick around baby, I'll teach you many things *wink wink*
I suppose I should clarify, while I met them a nine years ago I did spend time with them at least until a couple of years. I am just glad it is no longer a case of me not feeling good enough as frankly I'm great :D
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Now I'm older and I've done a good job of living a rich and varied life, I think it would be hard to find someone who knows all of me, and that's ok. There are bits I don't like to share much, despite being a very open person. I'm a little bit complicated, and that's alright by me.
fishy-loves,
T.
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But I think lots of people that have bits they don't like to share much. There is stuff in my past that even though isn't part of my life now has shaped who I am now and some of it is really hard me to talk about.
Yay :D fishy-love back :)
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Could it be that you're musing over this because you wish more people knew more about you? Because you're private you wait for opportunities to connect with people on a deeper level to come up organically, instead of manufacturing them, or just being more public with your innermost thoughts. Maybe this needs to change, if you're feeling a bit unsatisfied? Or I could be wrong and you're totally happy with the way things are right now. It's certainly an interesting subject to consider. :)
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At the moment I am happy about how knows what about me, but hey like anything that might change in the future :)
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