Comments | syanorra: Violent Behavior is an Abuser's Choice

syanorra

Violent Behavior is an Abuser's Choice

Sep 27, 2007 00:04

Hello my name is Nikki, and I am an abuse survivor.
Here is my story.

( Despite what many people believe, domestic violence is not due to the abuser’s loss of control over his behavior. In fact, violence is a deliberate choice made by the abuser in order to take control over his wife or partner. )

abuse survivor, public entry

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trkkergrl September 27 2007, 14:40:35 UTC

I'm so sorry that you went through this. Greg reminds me so much of my exhusband Tim. I married him when I was 16 and it took 4 years to get out of that hell. No woman should ever go through that. I'm very glad you are out of there. *hugs*

syanorra September 28 2007, 01:23:12 UTC

I remember so many people telling me to just leave him. Easier said than done, I'm sure you can relate. I always kept thinking things would change, or he just wouldn't let me go. He'd show up at my house, work, if I was out somewhere ... I have no idea how he knew where I was half the time, but somehow he was there. Plus the fact that we had a long relationship, and all that jazz. It's not as simple as some people think it is, I often felt like if I left him, he'd kill me or something. I remember not being able to sleep at night if I was at home, fearing he'd come to my parents house and do something stupid. One morning we woke up and two of my dad's van tires were flat. I'm sure it was him, but I can't prove it ... but he had shown up at my house that night, so I have no doubt it was him.

It's so scary.

markshoneybear September 27 2007, 17:23:43 UTC

I'm so glad you got away from that asshole. Nobody should go through what you did.

I'm glad you have Wryan now! HUGS!!!

syanorra September 28 2007, 01:15:47 UTC

You have no idea how long it took me to fully trust Wryan after that !! I kept thinking to myself that he was going to turn out the same ... I'm glad I stuck with him, obviously !!

cooperwench September 28 2007, 04:54:10 UTC

~hugs~
Yeah, I think I remember Dante telling me about that night...
Good for you for being strong enough to fight back. You weren't "a fool" you were fooled. Abusers are so manipulative, you can't see past the rosy glasses they staple on your head.

syanorra October 5 2007, 04:15:25 UTC

Dante should remember ... it was an amusing night. "What, I'm pregnant ?! Well, someone should have fucking told ME !!!" Yeah, how the hell would HE know I was pregnant if *I* didn't know ?! Stupid boy.

angelrose September 28 2007, 05:31:41 UTC

You are an amazing strong survivor.

syanorra October 5 2007, 04:16:35 UTC

Thanks, baby !
=D !!

danikas September 28 2007, 16:11:30 UTC

I am speechless. I am amazed that you made it through such an awful relationship, and I'm more than happy that you survived it. It makes it even more amazing when you look at the life you have now. A lot of women find other abusers. Im happy you found someone like Wryan that you can love and have a good life with. <3

syanorra October 5 2007, 04:16:03 UTC

Looking back, I'm more amazed that it went on so long !! Damn, I was stupid ! hahaha