Fight Club

[syrinsong]

Had a giganto fight with Nathan at 3AM this morning. I woke up and went out into the kitchen to get some water, and I saw all the dirty dishes, and I got freaked out. I woke him up and said that I was tired of living in filth and was upset that he didn't help me out more. He got all pissy and said he didn't have time to clean tomorrow because of

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[b_schmilsson]

Oh honey--I'm so sorry!! (I'm glad Nathan called though, sometimes it's best just to make up and move on.) I get flusterated like that too--you know I do! I've thought about making a chart or having an agreement "I cook, you clean up" sort of thing. I've had GUYS tell me "If you don't bitch at us, we'll think everything's ok and you'll end up pissed", I just wish they'd listen the first 20 times so we wouldn't have to nag.

Nathan is working very hard, and he loves you very much, and is very supportive of you no matter WHAT'S going on. I think that's the important part. 'Hope things are a lot better by the time you read this.

'Love you honey.

[syrinsong]

Things got better, fortunately.

It's hard to stay mad at each other... we're just so damn cute! LOL

*smooches*

[kalidaemon]

Shit happens. I've said some pretty rotten things myself when my brain isn't working right. I guess the people you love make easier targets for some twisted reason. Maybe because they won't go away no matter what you do. Maybe because your guard is down around him. Either way, I wouldn't beat yourself up over what happened. It seems like you've been a little fragile lately which could (partially explain it). I'm glad things worked out, though.

[syrinsong]

Yeah, I sort of chalked this fight up to all the stress I've been going through lately. I've been extremely out of it for about a month.

I'm going to talk to my therapist about nicer ways to fight. He never says hurtful things to me, but I have to throw in a bomb here and there that don't even relate to the problem at hand. Gotta fix that.

And I'm glad things worked out as well. I really do like him, apparently...

[seanfish]

yeah as usual kali has said exactly what I was thinking - you've just come out of a psychotic episode, it's how things are going to be fore a while.

Also I think the other half of the explanation is that you're somewhat in the right - stresses caused by Nathan not giving you the support you need consistently contributed to your recent episode most likely and living in filth is a huge stressor - I know in my relationship helping Sally out more around the house and being more onto it has helped with her anxiety disorder and our relationship.

*hugs*

(*hugs for you too kali for being so clever all the time*)

[kalidaemon]

Awww. Thanks Sean. Let's move the discussion to the disused forum known as strangelysane...