I would ask things that aren't asking him to describe himself, since people tend to not see themselves clearly and they exaggerate their good qualities (and frankly, I'm a believer of the 'if you have to say you're a nice guy, you're not a nice guy' idea). So more of "why did your last relationship end?" versus "what sort of lover do you consider yourself?"
However, unless he were specific about what he wants to know about you, I'd be more vague about how you answer him, since I like to lower expectations. When I was dating, I'd tell/warn guys that I'm pretty quiet and don't like going out to bars or nightclubs, stuff like that, and then if that didn't warn them off, they'd have the chance to figure out on their own that I tend to have a bawdy sense of humor once you get to know me.
Yeah, I think like that too, that what people say might not be exactly how I would see them... But then, it could say a lot about that person, depending on what they say though! Like you said, if a person seems to be blaming everyone but himself, that could say a lot...
Thank you so much! Anything else you can think about? I really suck at this.
That was one of my biggest pet peeves - when a guy would message me online and then say "What do you want to talk about?" or "What do you want to ask me?" Hello...you messaged me first!
As far as things to ask, I always looked at the guy's profile and then asked about something listed in the profile that I found interesting. (For example, if he said something like "I have a dog," I'd ask what breed, what was its name, etc. If he mentioned a specific hobby, I'd ask something about that.) If he had nothing at all in his profile, I wouldn't bother. : )
My standard answer to "Tell me something about yourself" was generally "What would you like to know?"
I will say that when David emailed me initially, I decided to respond (even though I looked at his profile and he didn't seem like my type) because he asked me specific questions about things I had in my profile...so I knew he'd actually taken the time to read it.
LOL, Sweden seems to be full of guys who write NOTHING on their profiles. ;P A good sign, like your David, is when smn actually reads what you've written...
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However, unless he were specific about what he wants to know about you, I'd be more vague about how you answer him, since I like to lower expectations. When I was dating, I'd tell/warn guys that I'm pretty quiet and don't like going out to bars or nightclubs, stuff like that, and then if that didn't warn them off, they'd have the chance to figure out on their own that I tend to have a bawdy sense of humor once you get to know me.
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But then, it could say a lot about that person, depending on what they say though! Like you said, if a person seems to be blaming everyone but himself, that could say a lot...
Thank you so much! Anything else you can think about?
I really suck at this.
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As far as things to ask, I always looked at the guy's profile and then asked about something listed in the profile that I found interesting. (For example, if he said something like "I have a dog," I'd ask what breed, what was its name, etc. If he mentioned a specific hobby, I'd ask something about that.) If he had nothing at all in his profile, I wouldn't bother. : )
My standard answer to "Tell me something about yourself" was generally "What would you like to know?"
I will say that when David emailed me initially, I decided to respond (even though I looked at his profile and he didn't seem like my type) because he asked me specific questions about things I had in my profile...so I knew he'd actually taken the time to read it.
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A good sign, like your David, is when smn actually reads what you've written...
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Your statement: I like threesomes .)
Jus' kiddin'.
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You are awesome. :D *hugs*
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