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tacotoes

Depressed

Oct 31, 2009 17:03

In general. With myself. I had it really well articulated about an hour ago but I've since lost it. Basically I am sad that I'm no fun on my own. I should be able to go out and make friends and do stuff, but I don't/can't. I'm supposed to go out Monday with Sarah and people to celebrate her thesis being done but I don't want to because going out to ( Read more... )

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cygnenoire November 1 2009, 23:57:19 UTC

Um, well, below please find what started out as a quick inspirational jot and turned into a treatise on why you are awesome, capable, and deserving ( ... )

ljflew33 November 3 2009, 11:02:15 UTC

I don't have much to add to what Ted's written above, except to say that these things take practice and take getting used to. And it's best to take advantage of as many social opportunities as possible, because it will get better over time.

The other thing is, Embrace your social awkwardness. It's something I've been working on for a while, too (for some reason I think that people who are socially awkward get along better with each other than with people who are socially graceful). If you feel awkward or say something awkward or do something awkward, just go with it. It's fine. You're just being your wonderful self. :)

lapsedhistorian November 5 2009, 22:53:20 UTC

I've never thought about you as being socially awkward. In fact, you come across as much less so than me, and I've managed to bumble along alright. The thing about going out to bars is that it isn't everyone's idea of a good time, and that's ok. I hate bars, and most of all I hate ordering from the bar, because for the life of me I can never get served. I think you'd be surprised how many people feel awkward in bars. But it's a common social setting and you're never going to get used to it unless you make yourself do it. So go along to the bars, order a soda, and just sit back and listen to the banter. Even if you just sit quietly- most people like being around people who listen, as well as talk. Eventually it'll become less intimidating- it did for me. You don't have to love it, I certainly don't, but getting used to it will at least make it easier.