1- You cannot love another properly until you love yourself. Love is selfless, not selfish. How could you love them fully if you depended on them to keep you whole?
2- I've wasted so much time on men that were simply... a waste of time. Do you really want to do that? It hurts a lot more when you find out they never gave a shit about you the way that you gave a shit about them. Enlightenment, etc, it's a lot better when one realizes there's no point in agonizing over these things. The grass is always greener, my friend.
I feel like your life would vastly improve if you had more of a career going.
So why waste more life away in a depressed funk? I wasted seven years in a deep depression and then how many more after leaving the service. What a waste of life, spending it doing nothing but wallowing in self-pity, bemoaning past mistakes and all the should haves and could haves that never happened.
Either I'm hideously unattractive or I have the worst luck ever or both.
Or you're looking in all the wrong places for love? For me, some of the most satisfying relationships were found through very unconventional methods (and by total accident). People know when you're trying and pushing too hard for a relationship and tend to back away. Just enjoy the time you get with people without the expectations. If something happens and develops between you and the other person, great! But if it doesn't, don't get discouraged!
I can't wait to get on the happy pills again....Even though I'm of the school of thought that pills alone are not the answer to all psychological issues, many people find them helpful
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We can't control how we feel and I've been in that mindset and that's what's fueled the cycle of self doubt and sadness. However, we can control, well, to a much greater degree than what we feel, what we think. We also can surround ourselves with awesome people. You are awesome. Everyone who's posted here? Awesome. I just need to change something.
I'm thinking the happy pills will take the edge off the sadness and let me lead a more fruitful emotional life even if I'm still kind of sad. I can distract myself away from the pain and start focusing on the joy. That's how it went last time at any rate.
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1- You cannot love another properly until you love yourself. Love is selfless, not selfish. How could you love them fully if you depended on them to keep you whole?
2- I've wasted so much time on men that were simply... a waste of time. Do you really want to do that? It hurts a lot more when you find out they never gave a shit about you the way that you gave a shit about them. Enlightenment, etc, it's a lot better when one realizes there's no point in agonizing over these things. The grass is always greener, my friend.
I feel like your life would vastly improve if you had more of a career going.
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2- No, but, people aren't meant to be isolated creatures either. It's a hard balance to make.
i'm trying to get my career in order, but, it's hard when there's that feeling of nagging self doubt in the back of my mind.
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40 and single and glad of it, thank you.
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absolutely adorable. D:
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So why waste more life away in a depressed funk? I wasted seven years in a deep depression and then how many more after leaving the service. What a waste of life, spending it doing nothing but wallowing in self-pity, bemoaning past mistakes and all the should haves and could haves that never happened.
Either I'm hideously unattractive or I have the worst luck ever or both.
Or you're looking in all the wrong places for love? For me, some of the most satisfying relationships were found through very unconventional methods (and by total accident). People know when you're trying and pushing too hard for a relationship and tend to back away. Just enjoy the time you get with people without the expectations. If something happens and develops between you and the other person, great! But if it doesn't, don't get discouraged!
I can't wait to get on the happy pills again....Even though I'm of the school of thought that pills alone are not the answer to all psychological issues, many people find them helpful ( ... )
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We can't control how we feel and I've been in that mindset and that's what's fueled the cycle of self doubt and sadness. However, we can control, well, to a much greater degree than what we feel, what we think. We also can surround ourselves with awesome people. You are awesome. Everyone who's posted here? Awesome. I just need to change something.
I'm thinking the happy pills will take the edge off the sadness and let me lead a more fruitful emotional life even if I'm still kind of sad. I can distract myself away from the pain and start focusing on the joy. That's how it went last time at any rate.
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