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[tajmahalic]

Well, it was nice while it lasted...
But it looks like I'll be in the market for a new roommate a lot sooner than I had anticipated

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[geekkid]

Or craigslist. Wouldn't that be fun?

[tajmahalic]

Ugh, absolutely not -- I can't just live with some random person! Plus, who the hell would want to take over a lease for just six months?

[geekkid]

Japanese business men?

Seriously though, this sucks. I hope you find a solution soon. Unfortunately, I really don't have anything constructive to offer.

You don't have to move back to the suburbs. There are plenty of cheaper living options in Denver. For instance, Michelle lives in a one bedroom apartment in a really awesome old house for only $600 a month -- it's larger than my space was up in Westminster that we paid $900 for.

[tajmahalic]

Really? I've been looking around and I can't find anything in a one bedroom (or even a studio) for under $800 or $850. I need something on the north side of town so I don't add too much time to my commute (Cap Hill might be out for that reason), and I don't want anything too shitty. Maybe I need to keep looking...

[katmarfo]

That's bullshit - if he wants to bail it's his problem and he should deal with it, not you. He can't force you out of the apartment because he's a flake. Would it be possible for HIM to find the replacement, that you approve of, instead of leaving that task up to you? I'm still paying for an apartment I don't live in because I made the choice to leave and that sucks but it was my choice so the consequences belong to me.

[katmarfo]

I guess you don't want to live with some random person. But I still think it should be up to him to find an arrangement that works.

[tajmahalic]

Yeah...
The more I talk to other people about the situation, the more I realize what you're saying is absolutely right. If he wants to back out on our lease, that should be his burden -- not mine. I'm worried about how the situation (and the outcome) will affect our friendship, but ultimately it will be his decision that brings us to this point. I can't be expected to just automatically accept whatever he wants.

[firezdog]

He has a moral obligation to you to stay and finish off the lease.

[firezdog]

Why don't you remind him of that. Use Nagel's test: "How would you feel if I did that to you?"

[firezdog]

A MORAL obligation. It's not like what he's doing is inconsiderate. It is wrong. Obviously not at the level of killing babies, but still wrong.

[tajmahalic]

Yeah, I think you're right on this one. I shouldn't take responsibility for a situation that involves a morally questionable decision on his part. As a friend, I feel like I maybe have an obligation to work with him on his request, but he shouldn't expect me to do anything inconvenience or impractical.

[geekkid]

Okay, if you're interested, my (aforementioned) friend has two apartments opening up soon in her building in the Baker neighborhood. One is a top floor going for $800 and the other is a a second (I think) floor one going for i think it was $600 or $650 (I don't remember). It's a three floor house on 1st and Acoma.

[geekkid]

I think you can see the Mayan from her window -- you can at least walk there.

[tajmahalic]

That sounds pretty cool...
But I think I may have found a solution that could appease both of our situations. We have a mutual friend that is month-to-month at her Cap Hill apartment right now and wants to get out as soon as possible, but is waiting for a roommate to move into a house with her next August or September. She's got a limit on what she can pay a month, but my roommate said he might be willing to cover the difference. It could definitely work out, so I'm going to check into it and see if it's a realistic possibility.

Otherwise, I will likely be looking for a place, as my roommate has basically made it clear that his girlfriend probably won't want to move in with us, and I'm definitely not looking to have some stranger move in here.