a new conundrum

[take_a_breath]

So, the craziest things (regarding guys specifically) have been happening recently.  This guy that came into the cafe all the time that I thought was super cute and nice (but had a girlfriend) broke up with his gf and told the other people that work at the cafe that he really likes me.  Now, the entire staff (all two others of them...including my boss) are currently trying desperately to get us to date and are practically forcing him on me.  The guy is really cute and super sweet, don't get me wrong, but I have gotten to know him over the months of him coming to the cafe, and despite having always had a slight crush on him, I'm thinking part of it might have been the fact that it was safe because he had a girlfriend.

Then, there's this guy that worked at the South Philly Obama Headquarters right across the street from my apartment who I thought was absolutely gorgeous (and figured he had no idea I even existed).  Well, on New Year's Eve, I was at a friend's apartment at a party, and another friend called for me to come down and let them in the door.  When I opened the door, the hot Obama Headquarters guy (who I haven't seen since the election) was walking by.  Even weirder than that was the fact that he actually saw me, recognized me, and was so excited about it that he came over and hugged me.  We stood there talking for probably ten or fifteen minutes solid and he asked for my phone number before he headed off to the party he was going to.  The next day, he texted me to see if I was free over the weekend to go out sometime, and I said yes, so Friday he called and asked if I could do something that night.  This also happened to be a night that the other guy from the cafe was up at the cafe for a few hours hanging out with me and being nervous and weird in the way shy guys are when they want to ask you out and don't know how.  I literally made plans to go out with Obama guy and got home to find a Facebook message from the cafe guy asking me out.

So, I went on a date with Obama Guy, and the thing with Cafe Guy is still pending, as I haven't answered his Facebook message yet (and I saw him today, which was slightly awkward, but then I sheepishly explained how bad I am at returning Facebook messages and promised I would tonight...which, I still haven't...haha).  I have never in my life been bombarded with two guys wanting to date me at the same time.  This seriously feels like something out of a movie or a sitcom.  I seriously don't know what to do...other than a huge part of me wanting to not date either just because of the circumstances.

So to try an figure this whole thing out, I've made pros and cons lists for the two guys.

Cafe Guy

Pros:

1. He does seem like he's someone who would get along with my friends and mesh well with them
2. He's artsy...went to University of the Arts and majoring in welding and jewelry making
3. He wears these thick-rimmed black glasses that are super cute
4. He's shy
5. He has a good sense of humor
6. He's got a Mac

Cons:

1. He's not very tall...at least as tall as or just a bit taller than me, which I don't really like that much
2. He's a year younger than me, which actually doesn't always bother me, but for some reason does in his case
3. He smokes
4. He's a bit on the too-shy side...I like someone with a bit of gall
5. He's a regular customer and everyone at the cafe knows and loves him, so if we dated and I didn't like him after all or things just didn't work out, it might be weird
6. Now that he's single and has expressed his extreme interest in me, I'm almost horrified...I think it was the charm of liking him I liked...not actually him that I liked, haha...is that horrible?
7. One of his "interests" on Facebook is Power Hour, which is a horriblly stupid and childish high-school drinking game in which you sit around and listen to a cd where there is only a minute clip of each song (and lasts an hour) and take a shot of beer each time the song changes.  Seriously?
8. I can't really see us being together

Obama Guy

Pros:

1. He's tall
2. He's got a nice "build" to him
3. He's clean-cut
4. He's older (28)
5. He's really smart (degree in English Lit and wants to take it further, and most of our conversation centered around politics and current events when we weren't filling eachother in on details about ourselves)
6. He seems like an all-around great guy
7. I think we'd look really cute together (haha)
8. The whole thing just feels like fate...having run into him after months of not seeing him and how he remembered me and wanted to go out with me
9. The Philly friends I've consulted with are leaning towards him for the fate factor and just how he looks, haha
10. He used to smoke, but quit
11. He's well-traveled and has lived in a lot of different places in the States, so he's kind of similar to me in that way...both his parents live in Europe, so he's pretty unattached to his family and doesn't see them often

Cons:

1. I've never dated someone I didn't at least know for a little while beforehand as a friend (this even includes good ol' Elijah), and the whole thing just kind of seems unnatural to me...but I guess it's just because I'm not used to it 
2. Bumping into this guy on New Year's Eve was the first time we'd spoken, so the fact that he pretty much asked me out on looks alone freaks me out...a lot
3. He used to smoke and quit...which means he could start again
4. I made a few jokes during the night (one of the better ones being a reference to garlic's usefulness in warding off vampires when he said he thought he had eaten too much of it that afternoon) and he didn't respond much to them, but it was quite loud where we were, so I'm not sure if that was a factor
5. I can't think of one joke or humorous thing he said all night, and a sense of humor and goofiness are really important to me in a guy
6. He's quite a bit older, which despite being nice, means he's also older than the majority of my friends, which makes me question how he'd fit in
7. He seems uber-serious
8. I kind of want someone with strong family ties since I don't have that
9. He kissed me on the first date...which, at the time made me smile like a retarded hyena, but with further thought, I realized that it was incredibly presumptuous of him, and also set a standard for any and all dates to come
10. In reference to number 9, I feel like he's moving too fast...especially because he left me saying how he couldn't wait to see me again and then called the next day...and the next
11. I do get lonely sometimes, but I am generally pretty happy in my overall state of singleness right now, so when I thought more about it, I realized I might not actually want to date someone right now
12. If he really was the right one, I wouldn't be thinking the things I said in number 11

Hm...so maybe simply writing this entry has solved all of this for me...I don't want to date anyone...or at least, neither of them.  I'm seriously just extremely busy right now.  With work and just the general life happenings, I don't really know if I want to try to fit someone  into that right now if I'm already having doubts about it.  The more I think about it, the more I realize, I like the way my life is right now, and I do have people to share my time with, but also have the time to do things on my own without regards to others if I so choose.  I've had to make up excuses (albeit, legitimate ones) to Obama Guy just for not seeing him every day since we've gone out.

What is my problem???  After months of pining over both of these guys, they've landed right in my laps, all for me to say, "Hm, on the other hand...nevermind.

I guess this is my heart telling me that it's either not the right time, or their both just not the right guy (probably a little of both).  Am I being too picky?  Well, one thing I've learned...being picky actually saves you from heartache in the end...dating the wrong one is a lot harder than dating the right one (I'm assuming at least...I've only dated the wrong, and it was super hard).

Thanks for listening to my dilemna...now I just have to figure out what to do about these guys...any suggestions?

And oh yeah...the most important detail that I almost forgot...neither of them are Christians, which, after the last guys I've dated, has become an extremely important thing for me in a guy...so yeah, I guess that definitely answers my question.