i think, one of the few worthwhile effects of these internet forums is that, every so often, you can get a sharp, unexpected snapshot of the depths that open up inside another, i mean that there's a whole world inside-around-about each other person. easy to forget.
especially good when you actually know these people. it helps also as a way to discover these things in yourself and writing them/typing them can bring about ideas and realizations that thinking alone cannot do. to have to pick the words to describe something, versus just feeling it, is tougher than it may seem.
but sometimes this new understanding can be one sided, hm?
the way you phrase that makes it seem that "thinking" and "feeling" are not separate but similar or the same and I think that is true. picking words is tough -- another neglected point -- work of words not often appreciated or called inferior to feeling, "spontaneity" so-called.
It is even better when you know the person, because, what I was getting at esp., is that the person that I think I "know" I might have only as a narcissistic projection, a 2-dimensional sounding board for me or my ideas and impressions about them or about "people." But then comes the chance intersection of a moment of mine with their tid bits of randomness, and for no particular reason at all, a world opens up to me, just a glimpse, and I catch and inhale and look into the abyss of a whole other person than me...humbling, but just a quiet little moment and perfectly normal. one-sided...there's the defect of the electronic forum...only one way around it...
yes, i think/feel that thinking and feeling are very much tangled together. you cannot have one without another, and shouldn't, though one can be more dominant at times, perhaps.
it's hard to think of people as more than 2d sounding boards, flat characters, until you learn more intimate things about them. the more it happens, the more you see the possibility of it happening again. and it will, of course, because it is happening all the time, even when we don't step back and realize it. we are often too caught up with ourselves, it's hard not to be. but is the person revealing these tid bits only doing so because they are themselves caught up in their own ego? when is an unprovoked revealing of personal information ever selfless?
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but sometimes this new understanding can be one sided, hm?
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picking words is tough -- another neglected point -- work of words not often appreciated or called inferior to feeling, "spontaneity" so-called.
It is even better when you know the person, because, what I was getting at esp., is that the person that I think I "know" I might have only as a narcissistic projection, a 2-dimensional sounding board for me or my ideas and impressions about them or about "people." But then comes the chance intersection of a moment of mine with their tid bits of randomness, and for no particular reason at all, a world opens up to me, just a glimpse, and I catch and inhale and look into the abyss of a whole other person than me...humbling, but just a quiet little moment and perfectly normal.
one-sided...there's the defect of the electronic forum...only one way around it...
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it's hard to think of people as more than 2d sounding boards, flat characters, until you learn more intimate things about them. the more it happens, the more you see the possibility of it happening again. and it will, of course, because it is happening all the time, even when we don't step back and realize it. we are often too caught up with ourselves, it's hard not to be. but is the person revealing these tid bits only doing so because they are themselves caught up in their own ego? when is an unprovoked revealing of personal information ever selfless?
one way, huh?
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