Talking to people in person and socialising is awesome. I totally encourage doing it with people you like. It's not at all retarded. I'm unable to take you up on the offer though hope it works out well.
Valid commentary and I'll admit I am also trying that stuff at present. I was more just thinking aloud on LJ, rather than trying to make pointed commentary, although I can see how it could go across that way.
I think you're right about the whole second floor type environment (WoW is very similar); it creates a neutral yet comfortable meeting place, which required little effort to meet people, and no threat of having to invite people into your personal space.
I think it also comes from me being very hesitant to let *anyone* into my personal space up until now, so I am awkward in doing so when I try and people feel intimidated, I guess. So, I'm trying a few approaches and seeing what works.
That being all said, I'll take what you've said on board and try and use it to improve my attempts to be more social in future.
Its a foolish man who ignores advice when it is offered.
I try to treat LJ as a largely ego-free zone. I used to use it for more pointed commentary, and that only lead to drama so I try to avoid that at present. So, don't worry about me taking anything personally or the wrong way. Your advice was good, it made me think of trying to do other stuff.
I tend to be too much of a 1 on 1 type person. I like the dynamic because you can *really* talk to someone and really get to know what they're thinking, which is what is important to me. But, I think lots of people find the situation intimidating or too intense and what I took from your advice is that I need to organise stuff that involves a few people at a place, doing something that they all enjoy, and just go from there.
I was the one who withdrew from my social circles, and I am the one that has to rebuild them slowly.
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I think you're right about the whole second floor type environment (WoW is very similar); it creates a neutral yet comfortable meeting place, which required little effort to meet people, and no threat of having to invite people into your personal space.
I think it also comes from me being very hesitant to let *anyone* into my personal space up until now, so I am awkward in doing so when I try and people feel intimidated, I guess. So, I'm trying a few approaches and seeing what works.
That being all said, I'll take what you've said on board and try and use it to improve my attempts to be more social in future.
Thanks :)
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I try to treat LJ as a largely ego-free zone. I used to use it for more pointed commentary, and that only lead to drama so I try to avoid that at present. So, don't worry about me taking anything personally or the wrong way. Your advice was good, it made me think of trying to do other stuff.
I tend to be too much of a 1 on 1 type person. I like the dynamic because you can *really* talk to someone and really get to know what they're thinking, which is what is important to me. But, I think lots of people find the situation intimidating or too intense and what I took from your advice is that I need to organise stuff that involves a few people at a place, doing something that they all enjoy, and just go from there.
I was the one who withdrew from my social circles, and I am the one that has to rebuild them slowly.
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Sometime soon(ish) I'd like to have a few people over here on a weekend. We have lots of space, a BBQ, and a lot of boardgames that need playing :)
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And BBQ + Boardgames sounds awesome :)
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