Sometimes those of the non-str8 persuasion take things a little too sensitively. It is hard though to know when they are being mean spirited or just humorous.
not much different than making pedo jokes with catholics around
Oh, I know. I'm a big advocate of the not everything needs to be taken extremely seriously line of thought. Many problems can be avoided by being willing to loosen up a little on everyone's part.
I like to think that I do pretty well in that department, but there are times when the relentlessness of it all starts to wear a little thin. A joke is a joke, but when something is ALWAYS a joke, it starts to move into another field.
I'm fully willing to laugh at myself, I regularly do fairly ridiculous things (like randomly and unknowingly crash a Cornell alumni event); but I miss having opportunities to have parts of my life and views (like gender and sexuality) not be the butt of some joke. I miss opportunities for aspects of myself to just be a part of me, and for my world view to not be different from the people around me.
Which is not to say my friends are terrible people or anything, because they aren't. Just some things are not a part of their regular experience and so things don't always register the same way.
I miss the other communities I became a part of, and the friends that I made which I no longer get to see on a regular basis. They were grounding forces for different parts of who I am, aspects of myself which I no longer get to share in the same way anymore.
i am who i am and anyone who doesnt like it is free to try and do something about it. But then they better hope to hell their medical insurence is paid up and covers stupidity.
Re: the "they" thing -- I have a sneaking suspicion I know who you're talking about (unless this situation is a lot more frequent than I might think). The funny thing is that he mangled the story, because it's her friend who identifies as "they." In any case, I apparently did a shitty job of explaining gender identity to him :(
Re: the other stuff -- it's a pain. I actually had a conversation about how I don't see the need to make jokes that will hurt other people or make them uncomfortable. There are enough other funny jokes. But I was getting the sense that I was in the minority, haha. If you figure out a way to deal well and eloquently with different non-supportive remarks, let me know :)
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not much different than making pedo jokes with catholics around
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I like to think that I do pretty well in that department, but there are times when the relentlessness of it all starts to wear a little thin. A joke is a joke, but when something is ALWAYS a joke, it starts to move into another field.
I'm fully willing to laugh at myself, I regularly do fairly ridiculous things (like randomly and unknowingly crash a Cornell alumni event); but I miss having opportunities to have parts of my life and views (like gender and sexuality) not be the butt of some joke. I miss opportunities for aspects of myself to just be a part of me, and for my world view to not be different from the people around me.
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I miss the other communities I became a part of, and the friends that I made which I no longer get to see on a regular basis. They were grounding forces for different parts of who I am, aspects of myself which I no longer get to share in the same way anymore.
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Re: the other stuff -- it's a pain. I actually had a conversation about how I don't see the need to make jokes that will hurt other people or make them uncomfortable. There are enough other funny jokes. But I was getting the sense that I was in the minority, haha. If you figure out a way to deal well and eloquently with different non-supportive remarks, let me know :)
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