Forgetting
Sometimes I'm forgetful. I don't think it's too bad, but it worries my wife.Tuesday morning I left for work, intending first thing to text a local business to make an appointment for Thursday evening at 6. On my way home, I remembered I hadn't made the appointment. Luckily, an appointment was still available.
This morning around 8, as I'm getting ready to leave for work, my wife looks out the front window and asks me where the garbage bins are. I forgot to take them out to the street, and now it's too late, as the truck comes around 7. I actually took the trash and the recycling out to the bins, but forgot to take them to the street because I got distracted by the smell of something bad in the garage, which turned out to be a dead mouse. I had decided not to tell my wife about the mouse because it would freak her out, but I think that's probably one of the reasons I forgot to take the bins to the street. Now, she's wanting to know WHY I forgot to take the bins to the street. Do I admit I didn't tell her about the dead mouse? No. There are enough other reasons I got distracted last night, including forgetting to text about the appointment, that I don't tell her. But we end up fighting about what's the best way to not forget to do things. I mention "mindfulness" which she says is just a buzzword and not concrete. She prefers repeating the task (garbage, garbage, garbage) over and over in her head so as not to forget it if something distracts you in the middle of the task. She accuses me of not being passionate enough about wanting to change. I say I don't have time for it and leave for work.When I get to work I call to let her know I arrived safely, and we apologize to each other. But clearly, she's still concerned about making sure I'm on top of things, especially on the big trip we're planning at the end of May, worried about what could happen if we're far from home and have a mishap. I need to show her that I'm on top of things, to assure her that I'm in control. This tends to go against my easy-going, don't-worry-cuz-things-will-work-out nature.