Guys=Bad

[tctopcat]

Man. Honestly. Why does all the bad guy stuff come to me? I've never had a boyfriend or even my first kiss for that matter. And when I actually find a guy, a guy I've liked for a long time and almost went out with before but didn't because I couldn't date...and he likes me back, I'm excited. Things were going good. They really were. But I knew it

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hmm

[sparklez]

My only advice to you is to talk to your mom or dad, or both... you're very mature alyssa, and just eplain to them how you feel (okay well maybe not the kissing part lol) but tell them that you really feel like you'reready, and theat you feel like you're missing out on a valueable experience in life that other girls your age get to experience.. suggest maybe some "dating guidelines" and maybe if they don't want you to go on actaully dates yet that they can at least allow you to have a boyfriend. they know how responcible you are andtell them that you think it's time that they rewarded you for that. that's my suggestion.. i know you and your parents are close, so just talk to them.. it's worth a try right? well im praying for you this time. :) good luck girl! -Kelly

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[tctopcat]

thanks kelly. i appriciate your advice. it was just tough....b/c i was allowed to start dating when i turned 16 so i was xited to have my first bf and then it just kinda fell through..o well. thanks again

[evealynn]

Awww.... Alissa... I know exactly how you feel because I felt that way not to long ago. You are a wonderful person. Maybe it's just not time for you yet. I know how frustrated I was last year and I would talk to Amanda about it and she would say how I was a great person but maybe God just didn't want me to have a boyfriend yet and how she was going through the same thing. And I hated it because Amanda is like freakin super model gorgeous. Of course it helped me because I have always looked up to Amanda and if she could wait so could I. And I especially understand when you said: "I know everyone says oh it doesn't take guys to make you happy but why can't I find out?" I heard that all the time. I mean I would say one little thing about being upset that I didn't have anyone and everyone would start saying how guys are stupid and blah blah blah. But that never changed how I felt. And it's great to finally have someone. And I'm sure you'll find your prince charming soon. You are an absolutely wonderful, amazing, beautiful

[tctopcat]

thanks jj!! i <3 u too!! its great knowing that i've got people who are always going to be there for me and it's a great feeling. its nice knowing that someone else has been there and seeing how happy you are now makes me realize that if i do wait, maybe i can be as happy as you sometime soon. ur awsum jj and thanks again!!

[tchstopcat2004]

you think all the bad guy stuff happens to you?!?!?! oh hardly. lets see...i didnt have my first boyfriend till my senior year...i didnt get my first kiss till my senior year...and my first boyfriend didnt even really like me for me...basically i was just a toy. ok how much worse could that be for a first relationship. i mean yeah ppl say stuff like boys are a pain in the ace...so dont worry about them. well when ppl told me that i was like well i kinda want to find out for myself..and i did..and it sucked. yeah..oh and about the best friend thing..so there was this guy i liked for a year...and still kind of had/have a thing for...only to find out that he really likes one of my best friends...yeah..and i mean she is all like i wont talk to him if you dont want me to..but i am like well i mean i dont want to come off as trying to keep you from a relationship but then again it will hurt me to see you w/ him when i liked him for so long. so yeah. i have always had the shiz end of the stick when it comes to relationships. And what sucks

[tctopcat]

amanda, i love u!! when this happened, i was so furious and jealous and crazy and now that i think about it, i am kinda ashamed b/c i know i could have handled the situation better. I am happy to know that i am not the only one out there like this and i knew at the time that i wasn't. theres just something about it happening to you that you tend to think that no one else knows what its like. its not like that at all though. thank you so much for being YOU, the sweet caring person that i love!! you are such an inspiration to me and when you give advice, you mean it. you don't just say it to please the person you're giving it too. i know this won't be the only guy and i'm pretty sure he won't be the last, but like you said, i want all that in a guy and more and i hope so much that you get it as well. if anyone deserves a great guy its you. thank you again and i'm always here if you ever want to talk!!