Step-Son

[tdmacdonald76]

Does anyone out there have a step-child???  I have a 13 year old step-son that I'm concerned about.  Not because of drugs or bad behaviour, etc. but his emotional well-being is starting to concern me more and more.

Daulton lives with his mother and step-father in Moose Jaw.  They've been there for just over a year now.  He entered grade 7 in Moose

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[tinahenry4]

Ok..while I do not have a step child, I will answer this from the perspective of a biological child

[tdmacdonald76]

Most of my concerns stem from the fact that is mom is just being lazy. She'd rather buy him velcro and only digital clocks and not deal with teaching him. We went to play trivial pursuit while he was out and he asked me if he could read the cards - I said no that's cheating! He said, no no, while we're playing can I read the card to you. I said well of course, how else would we play??!! (I'm very confused!) And he said that when he and his mom play (which is maybe once a year) she doesn't let him read the cards because he's not smart enough and it takes him too long. I said that I'd help him with any words he needed, but otherwise he was the reader guy

[tinahenry4]

Ok, I think I get it now. She deserves to slapped up side the head ten ways to Sunday. Good grief!! Telling a boy that he is not smart enough to read the Trivial Pursuit card??!!
So here is a question...how much of fuss would she put up if he did come to live with you guys? Would it be a nightmare, or would she gladly hand him over? She might be a problem if she knows her child support payments are about to end....just a thought.
I think you guys need to follow your heart on this one. He sounds like a sweet boy in need of a caring home, and obviously you can provide that! Parenting a teenager will certainly come with it's share of challenges I'm sure...but hey, we were unruly teenagers once too!
You might want to give some thought to waiting until June, just because he has already started to school year...unless of course he has no anxiety about changing schools in mid stream. I'm just thinking that it might be an easier transition to do during summer time. Just my two cents!
Good luck with your decision!

[tdmacdonald76]

We were actually two days away from getting custody (voluntary on her part) last year, and then she pulled the plug at the last minute. I had everything lined up for him to start school here and everything. Then Mike asked her if she could please send he maintance cheques back so we could shred them, and that was the beginning of the end for our custody.

I hate the thought of pulling him out of school again, so whatever we do will have to wait for June.

On another topic - I can't upload a user pic....I've tried for an hour to get one and I get an error every time. Where can I go to search for a generic one?