You know I love you, and I agree with Shannon. If you do not have the feelings for him, then forget it. It is not worth the problems. In the words of a wise man: True love is wanting the one you love to be happy even if it does not include you. I also know what you mean about being comfortable with being single. I was single since we broke up (like 4 years ago) until I met my sweetie, and I can definitely say that I was kind of scared to be "Celine's" even though now I am completely happy and plan on marrying her. There is always stress when it comes to love.
My advice: Be honest and open. Love has strange ways of sneaking up on people and giving them wedgies when they least expect it.
Talk to the one you've been hanging out with. Tell him he's a cool guy and all, that there is another guy you are hung up on, and see what his reaction is. It's harder than hell to do, but it may help sort things out. If you open up and admit this, he may say anything from "okay, well, it's been fun" to "okay, well, is it okay if I keep treating you to dates, and maybe spoiling you?"
Depending on how he reacts, you'll get a better idea what you are looking at. 90% of problems when it comes to any kind of relationship thing is people do not talk about the stuff they should enough. They talk about that car that drove past, or the color of the leaves...not about what they are feeling. A lot of people can't do that.
Well, that's my advice. Lay your hand on the table and see what cards you're holding. *HUG* And as always, we'll be here for hugs/congrats whenever you need them.
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Be honest and open.
Love has strange ways of sneaking up on people and giving them wedgies when they least expect it.
Talk to the one you've been hanging out with. Tell him he's a cool guy and all, that there is another guy you are hung up on, and see what his reaction is. It's harder than hell to do, but it may help sort things out. If you open up and admit this, he may say anything from "okay, well, it's been fun" to "okay, well, is it okay if I keep treating you to dates, and maybe spoiling you?"
Depending on how he reacts, you'll get a better idea what you are looking at. 90% of problems when it comes to any kind of relationship thing is people do not talk about the stuff they should enough. They talk about that car that drove past, or the color of the leaves...not about what they are feeling. A lot of people can't do that.
Well, that's my advice. Lay your hand on the table and see what cards you're holding.
*HUG* And as always, we'll be here for hugs/congrats whenever you need them.
*another hug*
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