Dame Mix-a-Lot won't be denied.

Apr 09, 2014 19:36


Women (or gay men for that matter), have you ever found yourself in a life and death situation, and thought to yourself: Damn, I'm not sure if I'll be able to concentrate enough to survive this nearly fatal encounter, because that man's ass is just so fine looking in those jeans? Is this a valid concern that goes through your head often?

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arhyalon April 10 2014, 14:15:25 UTC
First of all, I'm not the person to ask. I've never noticed anyone's backside...I love shoulders and jawlines.

But the question is still valid.

Yes and no. I have been so distracted by a guy that I can't concentrate. And sometimes, I focus that distraction on "he's sooooo cute!" But usually, it is a spiritual quality...a desire for him to act a certain way...rather than a physical quality that is distracting me.

I read historical novels. Girls in those books tend to be more like what I just described...the thought of him rather than the look of him...is the danger.

I do have a friend who met her husband when she was so struck by his good looks that she walked into a palm tree. (In her defense, he is gorgeous. ;-)

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temporus April 10 2014, 14:32:33 UTC
Oh, being smitten by someone at first look? Sure I get that. (I can still close my eyes and recall the image of the first time I ever saw my wife.)

And, I could see it being a distraction when you're talking work-a-day level stuff. Heck, when you're talking about the hum-drum, it's probably a very welcome distraction. But as you progress up the scale towards, real life and death scenario, I would expect that such distractions would at some point fall away. It's probably at a different point for every person, but I'd still expect it to disappear before you get to the life and death scenario.

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arhyalon April 10 2014, 14:33:39 UTC
Me, too. I expect characters to become totally focused and ignore other things at that time.

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asakiyume April 12 2014, 17:11:19 UTC
I love this story about your friend and her husband--that's wonderful <3

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arhyalon April 10 2014, 14:17:07 UTC
In particular...distracted in an emergency. I bet Amanda Quick would do that in a funny way...but it isn't a regular trope I've noticed.

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abennettstrong April 10 2014, 20:55:33 UTC
I think I'd wind up skipping to the next story. I totally do check out guys' asses. Maybe less so than I did when I was younger, but yeah. In a life-or-death situation, if I noticed (because, say, I'm climbing somewhere behind the guy and it's right there, it's still not going to be my focus. A better throw-away humorous comment would be something like, "Can't wait until we're safe so I can take the time to appreciate this view." (Well, okay, that's not stellar prose, but the sentiment...)

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temporus April 10 2014, 23:23:50 UTC
What's tough, was up to that point, I kind of liked the character, and thought she was kind of street smart and savvy. It just made what had seemed a competent, self sufficient woman suddenly come off as weak. And that threw me for a loop.

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rachelmanija April 12 2014, 17:04:35 UTC
Distract me, no. But I'd notice and, if I had a second or two to spare, appreciate.

It sounds like a clunky use of an actual romance thing, which is that the relationship is the main story and everything else is secondary. This sometimes causes writers to do stuff like that, where the romance is getting emphasized in a situation where the emphasis should logically be on something else.

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asakiyume April 12 2014, 17:18:29 UTC
I have never had that combination of circumstances come up, so can't comment from experience, but thinking about writing, it sounds like two desirable things are warring with each other. You want a compelling backdrop for your romance (hence !danger!), but you also want to signal the attractiveness of the character (hence can't-concentrate). But yeah, you're completely undercutting the compellingness of the scene if all thoughts of the danger fly out the window.

I *do* think, from what people have told me, that in very intensely dangerous and scary moments, you can have what would seem to be inappropriate thoughts flash through your mind, and I do imagine you might *notice* and even reflect for a moment on someone's good looks. But if, in the scene, the person completely gets distracted from the danger, that seems hard to believe.

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