I have this EXACT frustration with people, and so often too! Ooh, or my other favorite, "Why did you just ask me X? You know exactly how to solve this problem." Grump, grump!
Thanks for responding --- I feared I was just being overly grumpy. I am glad it is not just me, or at least that I do not sound too self righteous (which I am not!).
As a second, sub-thought; I spent a few months dwelling on a particular issue that I think may be linked, so I present my findings for your perusal. Us folks who are introverted and/or very self-aware sometimes have this unrealistic expectation that everyone around them SHOULD be just as self-aware. But people aren't; they haven't gotten to that point in their life where they have a revelation and then start thinking about other people instead of just their own narrow world. They still have these blinders on, and nothing that any other person can do can remove those. It's not really their fault, and it's silly for me (us?) to have such high expectations
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Too true! It would be very great!! And yes, even though I consider myself fairly empathetic, I do have a wall when it comes to this (and also to the notion that if only I supply enough information and logic they'll see my side of things or my feelings --- not so much!). I try now to see when it's hopeless, or at least not my job, and back off
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Yes, you have a point. It's January and I'm already planning my herb garden. The days are getting longer (a very important turning point I share with GossamerSpider every year -- we both need to be reminded). I am indeed a nicer more productive person in Spring. There's something hopeful to Spring (though I love Fall and don't mind Winter as a concept).
It's that darkness. Plus the Fall semester in college is *brutal*. I need way more than 3 weeks off from teaching and advising (still have a lab to run, it's not "off" time) to recover. I slept for 2 days at the end. It's a job that requires a lot of nurturing and giving without getting a lot back at times. That affects the rest of my reserves. I need to learn to take a breath since my physical response to having been angry is pretty extreme. I don't like to be angry. It really upsets me.
I was thinking of you when we were discussing self-reflecting people. You actually look at yourself and wonder why you believe things and feel things. That is a rarity! :) Thank you for the insight!
i'm not sure what to say, because i, too, lose faith once in a while. it makes it hard to be that optimistic fool i am usually. ;)
i just wanted to send you a few bursts of good thoughts and remind you that if people have these moments and recover, it only makes them stronger, more reluctant to allow the general masses to continue to slide awat from Enlightment.
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So, I sympathize with your frustration. :)
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It's that darkness. Plus the Fall semester in college is *brutal*. I need way more than 3 weeks off from teaching and advising (still have a lab to run, it's not "off" time) to recover. I slept for 2 days at the end. It's a job that requires a lot of nurturing and giving without getting a lot back at times. That affects the rest of my reserves. I need to learn to take a breath since my physical response to having been angry is pretty extreme. I don't like to be angry. It really upsets me.
I was thinking of you when we were discussing self-reflecting people. You actually look at yourself and wonder why you believe things and feel things. That is a rarity! :)
Thank you for the insight!
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i just wanted to send you a few bursts of good thoughts and remind you that if people have these moments and recover, it only makes them stronger, more reluctant to allow the general masses to continue to slide awat from Enlightment.
keep shining, J. *love*
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