Losing and winning

[tesla321]

I feel sorry for younger lawyers who have never lost cases, and never had strings of losing cases. By sheer happenstance, I have had a run of winning juvenile and district cases against a certain young ADA. He just gets stung to the heart. I only try cases that I have a decent defense, or that my client absolutely insists...losing teaches you more

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[varina8]

Amen to all of the above.

[tesla321]

Thanks!

[mendenbar01]

Your politics shouldn't make a difference, but I suppose in your field they might. As far as winning and losing is concerned, well, this is my favorite rant. We prevent our children from failure when they are young so they never learn to adapt and overcome them. Then when they are adults (and the consequences are usually much greater) they have no resources/strength to lean on. Failure always teaches us much more than success. And failure comes to all of us somewhere. Good luck in finding your office mate (and I feel sorry for your ex-office partner. She may find that the Mess of Pottage she sold out for is bitter.)

[tesla321]

Well, she's the only black attorney and they are all literally country club...that's my rant too, along with helicopter parenting...I have 30 year men being brought to my office by their moms.

[mendenbar01]

If you go over and correct your child's homework, thus insuring a good grade, what does the teacher learn about your child and how well he/she is learning? Who should get the grade? You or your child? I asked a teacher one time about a big project to be built, whether my child would be graded against other students or their parents? I would provide materials upon request and help research possible solutions, again, upon request, but the project was my kid's. I've already been to school and don't really need to repeat it. By the time my kids were in middle school (6-7-8 here), they rarely asked for more than materials. (I will hold knots if requested.) They soon learned to handle missed assignments, poorly done work and poor grades. Soon thereafter they decided that they would rather have good grades (rather than my lecture when I saw their grades!) and if that meant they had to actually do some work, well, so be it. But their teachers got feedback as to how well their teaching was working and which students needed more help

[starlet2367]

Every time I hear about people on a losing streak, I think, "this too shall pass." If only I could so easily apply it to myself! ;)

I think the security of a salaried job is nice but the politics that accompany it wear me out. Says the one at home on day 2 of bed rest for her back. ;)

[tesla321]

My friend hands over her fees & they give her a stipend; she has one of their secretaries, they pay benefits. That will expect a certain way of professional dress, attendance at local charity events. Instead of being her own boss, someone scrutinize her output. The new firm senior partners are too, too country club and golf and dove shooting.

Meanwhile I'm going where I intended to go, after a couple of men finished their dithering.

[dessert_first]

Well said, thanks for your words of wisdom, Tesla. I'll try to remember this. And happy New Year!

[tesla321]

Happy new year to you, too! I think of you whenever I see raw cashews! ;-)