Comments | thaddeusdagan: A Rant

thaddeusdagan

A Rant

May 13, 2011 02:11

I should be done posting about what happened at Social Security. It happened, it wasn't much different than I expected, life goes on. In fact, I should be asleep - it's gone one, and I have to be up at seven to call the doctor and talk to a friend. But I'm still really upset, and I can't stop thinking about it.

( Warning: contains explicit reference to genital surgery that some may find offensive or triggering )

things that keep you up at 3 am, transphobia, rage!!!, call the whaaaambulance, vomiting onto the page

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indigofan May 13 2011, 14:43:09 UTC

::hug::

There are no good answers here, honey. Law/procedures/etc just haven't caught up with things yet. I devoutly hope that they do, and soon, so that no one ever has to feel the way you're feeling- and I'm sad that you're having to go through it. It's neither right, nor fair.

Hopefully your doctor will revise the note, and you'll be able to move full steam ahead, leaving the questioning peons in the dust.

thaddeusdagan May 13 2011, 16:03:18 UTC

Thank you, Meg. I know there's not anything I can do about it, I just needed to vent. Luckily the laws *are* changing, and of the organisations I, personally, have to deal with, Social Security is the last archaic holdout.

tommytesto May 15 2011, 02:31:39 UTC

Sorry it was such a pain.

On the other hand, I wish I'd known that your characterizations of a surgery you haven't had - and possibly have never seen in person - would be a great way of sharing your own "self hate" as you name it and turn it outward to shaming those of us who are in a different place.

More of that I don't need in my life. Good luck with things. When/if you eventually do want to explore lower surgery, and you are finding it hard to get accurate current data, remember how the atmosphere of silencing and shaming is created by those who will later be affected by it themselves.

thaddeusdagan May 15 2011, 22:34:53 UTC

I'm so very sorry that what I said upset you. I feel terrible that my words hurt someone, and since I read your comment I've been trying to figure out if I can make it better.

I try to be careful with what I say and how I say it, but when I wrote that post it was 2 am and I was upset enough that I couldn't sleep, so I obviously wasn't successful. I wasn't trying to say that the choice to have that procedure is a wrong decision or a bad decision, but that it's a difficult one. That there are losses involved - in all the options available - and it's not the easy, obvious assumption most cis people think it is ( ... )