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Have you ever been cheated on?

Jan 10, 2006 10:52

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I was "the other girl" and didnt know it. cleverbitch January 10 2006, 11:11:34 UTC

I've never been "cheated" on per se. But it was pretty damn close. I was the person being cheated with. AND I DIDNT KNOW IT. I was the one that found out too.

hurts too.

Knowin' that i had awesome friends and family who got my back regardless, helped me thru it, and u best believe his ass got called the fuck out. EVERYONE and their momma heard about it, if they asked me. Don't hold it back, let it out.

When sorrows are shared, it is DIVIDED.

Be strong, Andrew, you know you can do it.

Re: I was "the other girl" and didnt know it. thageneral January 10 2006, 12:11:22 UTC

Thanks for the reply M.

I like that whole "When sorrows are shared, it is DIVIDED" line.

Yesterday I told my older brother my situation. He was in a relationship where he was cheated on and now he's engaged to another girl. I told my boy Quammie this morning and he shared his experience about being cheated on by a girl and how he dealt with it. I even got an e-mail from one of Xiomara's friends sharing a story about how she dealt with getting cheated on.

Tonight I plan on telling my Mom and Dad, I don't know how they are going to react. I know they'll be supportive of me, but I feel like I made a horrible mistake by letting her into my home. Now I've got to tell her that this girl I was dating got drunk, made out with another guy and now we're no seeing each other anymore.

Yesterday I spent the day with Tom, Avik, Matt and Chris, I shared and they listened.

anonymous January 10 2006, 16:47:35 UTC

Hey Andrew, I know this whole thing is very difficult, but try to think possitively, you don't deserve this, she just not the right woman for you. You're a great guy, you deserve someone who loves you the same way you do for her. Don't give up ok. Take care.
Evelyn

Keep ya Head Up anonymous January 10 2006, 17:25:55 UTC

Mr. Miller I know that you are hurting right now but you need to remeber that you have the support system to get you through this situation. Keep your head up and you'll be alright BIG fella!!!!! You know I am just down the block and across the lights if you need a light skin shoulder to lean on. "Lean on me when your not strong cause I'll be your friend. I'll help you carry on" Boyz for life son. Stay strong

Hoots

storytellah January 10 2006, 22:08:15 UTC

when i went through some rough shit after my breakup, someone told me this: "the lord never burdens your soul with more than it can handle." you got this doggy.

anonymous January 11 2006, 10:46:45 UTC

I understand that what has happened to you is very upsetting. Having your trust broken not only hurts, but it leaves deep scars that take a very long time to heal. You have to give yourself time to heal. But in order for that to start you also need to let go. I understand you're hurt, but posting this on the internet has ruined any chance of ever reconcile your relationship. You've made people choose sides, so you can pretty much guarentee that you will never get back with her. That being the case, you need to GET OVER IT. It hurts! It sucks! But frankly, LIFE GOES ON!!!!!!! Don't let this consume you, and don't let yourself sink down to this pathetic level, where you feel the need to cry to the world and win everyone's sympathy. You make it sound like you are the first person this has ever happened to. It happens more often than not, luckily not everyone feels the need to post it on the internet.

pammee80 January 11 2006, 10:58:25 UTC

"GET OVER IT"... much easier said than done. It's only been a few days.

I don't think any one of us who's read his post thinks he sank to a pathetic level. It's HIS JOURNAL. We've all posted events in our lives...both significant and menial. Andrew's post about the break up was honest...I don't think he was making people choose sides. And true, he's not the first person this has happened to, but why should that make his personal experience any less significant? If you lost a leg, should we all tell you to shut the hell up cuz its happened to a bunch of other ppl too?

And you're being a hypocrite posting your private opinion online. What makes that different?

anonymous January 11 2006, 11:07:13 UTC

If i lost a leg i wouldn't post it on the internet!

thageneral January 11 2006, 11:16:02 UTC

Thanks for your feedback.

1)This is my journal. You can post what you like, but I can do the same. If you don’t like what I have to say then don’t read.

2) I don’t want Xiomara back.

3) I’m not looking for sympathy, I’m looking to record my thoughts and feelings in an effort to grow as a person.

4) Life does go on, but am I not allowed to heal? Trust me I’m not consumed, I’ve got plenty of other things to fill my time and thoughts.

5) Who the fuck are you? If you’re going to have the guts to talk shit at least step up and put a name with the comment.

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