midday ramble

[thatdirtyblonde]

it doesn't matter how many times you practice it in the mirror, telling someone that you aren't in love with them anymore isn't ever easy. and you're left feeling guilty, like you should have tried harder, but still you know that it was for the best. you were just like a tile in one of those children's games... you belong there somewhere but

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[cougarpants]

But, remember, if you truly feel this way, not telling them and moving on would only waste more of their time. There is always that period where you mourn the end of a relationship in whatever way. By not dragging it out, if you really in your heart feel this way, you are allowing them to get through that and go on to find what will make them happy as well. I think one of the worst hurts I ever had from my last relationship was realizing that it went on 2 years after it had died and neither one of us had just had the guts to call it quits and move on when there was no longer hope for saving what was there.

[tigerknight]

In my opinion it's not wasted time if it meant something to you. If you didn't care about how he felt, what he'll do, and how he'll survive - that would be the greatest crime; having spent all that time with someone and not actually caring about them. You care, it matters to you. I do thikn that letting someone in on this sooner than later is a good thing, but all things must come in their own time; just don't leave it to the very last minute.

You'll make it. :]

[cougarpants]

And yeah, TK is right, I just realized that my comment made it sound like I thought it was wasted time. Every relationship you are in you learn more about yourself and what you want. As the couples counselor my ex and I went to used to say, a relationship that ends is not a failed relationship. The success of that relationship was the time well spent with someone who helped you learn more about yourself and them learn more about themselves. You didn't waste time. The only waste is dragging it out and hurting both of you more. But, it's obvious that is /not/ your intention and that you do care about him.

warning! lameness ahead!

[fierceflawless]

a quote from oprah (of all people) that always makes me think about living with brian:

I don't believe in failure. It's not failure if you enjoyed the process.