1) Don't lie to them. They'll know right away if there isn't any truth and you're just trying to prop up their self-esteem or boost their ego.
2) If the other party involved is known, make sure they understand this wasn't just a single person's decision. It was a give and take, and that even if they feel somewhat responsible the other person is just as liable for what happened.
2.5) Unless it was forced, in which case it wasn't the victim's fault. There can be extreme cases when someone might argue that "they were asking for it," but these are almost never used in context with real people, nor by ones who have went through it first hand.
3) Make sure that even if both people are equally culpable, that one person took the initiative in most cases. In fact, it's usually from the prompting of a single person that these things happen. The other one, if anything, went along with it, but didn't originate the idea. In which case, since it didn't start with them, it can't really be anyone but the original person's responsibility.
Jeremy, how is it that you know all the answers to everything? You're like a walking, talking encyclopedia. I hate it because secretly deep down I love it and admire it and want to be just like you in that respect because I am not an encyclopedia.
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2) If the other party involved is known, make sure they understand this wasn't just a single person's decision. It was a give and take, and that even if they feel somewhat responsible the other person is just as liable for what happened.
2.5) Unless it was forced, in which case it wasn't the victim's fault. There can be extreme cases when someone might argue that "they were asking for it," but these are almost never used in context with real people, nor by ones who have went through it first hand.
3) Make sure that even if both people are equally culpable, that one person took the initiative in most cases. In fact, it's usually from the prompting of a single person that these things happen. The other one, if anything, went along with it, but didn't originate the idea. In which case, since it didn't start with them, it can't really be anyone but the original person's responsibility.
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Stay awesome, and thanks. :)
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People are always surprising, so when something seems to fit a pattern, it can, but in its own way.
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