Whew! Bullet dodged.

[the_gwenzilliad]

I almost posted something serious and potentially controversial here, but then I realised people commenting on it all would just make me feel like shit, so I deleted it.

Sorry; my trust level is pretty low at the moment.

It's hard to re-open my life for discussion. I just really don't talk about important things to anybody but filceolaire and alpacaaddict anymore.

Comments

[roaming]

Sorry to hear that. . . but whatever makes you feel safe. Glad you have them. :-)

[the_gwenzilliad]

I sometimes miss discussing personal things with many people. I'd likely still discuss with you if I ended up in Bostonland. :)

[roaming]

Looking forward to that eventuality! Long time no . . . anything! :-/

[nirol]

Share whatever you choose to share. It's just good to see you here again. Welcome back! *hugs*

[the_gwenzilliad]

I hope I'm back. It seems weird to have taken such a long break.

[delennara]

Absolutedly understandable. But maybe there stll are things you might like to share. Or write as matter of fact, just to let us know what is on your mind....
*hugs*

[the_gwenzilliad]

:-) Thanks for that; it's always good to know folks are listening.

[stevieannie]

I've done that exact thing, and for those exact reasons. Except the important life discussions generally happen with Tim and Lissa... I'm not sure that it's a trust problem, just a "being aware that people can be short-sighted and hurtful" thing.

[the_gwenzilliad]

I think I used to live in this rose-coloured world where I just *knew* that 'good people' *understood* me. Now I know that there are many people who, despite their relative goodness (or maybe because of it), just can't sit there and watch while people make mistakes, or believe stupid things, or practice some kind of discrimination. It's possible I might even have become one of those people. I suspect if I lived anywhere near you I'd be all up in your stuff all the time and you'd probably have to have a chat with J to see if he couldn't get me to tone it down a bit. Of course, I'd do that to Lissa too if it were convenient. ;-)

[anonymous]

I find it interesting that you post that you *wanted* to discuss things, but that there are discussions about those things that you don't want to have.

Bear with me here for a second, (yes, I'm doing the "guy thing"). It seems plain that you have *something* you want to share but perhaps not with everyone.

So, I postulate, maybe, email, IM or call some select people you do trust to give you feedback that you can deal with (based on history or your gut or whatever) and share with *them* what you don't feel comfortable sharing with everyone?

Just a thought, and if you think it's a bad one, never mind, and next time you see me, feel free to whack me with something.