Carrie's Long-Awaited Epic Sexuality Post (or: "Holy crap! When did that dyke start dating a guy?")

[thecpexperiment]

I don’t know how many of you have seen the film Chasing Amy.  I think I saw it for the first time when I was thirteen or fourteen - definitely before I was out, but definitely after I had started consciously thinking about women sexually.  There’s this one monologue in the film that is spoken by Alyssa (Joey Lauren Adams) right after she and Holden

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[downtrod]

*clap*

Very well put. I always loved that speech in "Chasing Amy." You you first mentioned the speech, I knew that was the one you were going to talk about.

Personally, I don't think love has a gender and I'm really proud and happy for you that you have found it. And it's really amazing that you have found it with your best friend.

-Amy

[kjersteno]

Beautiful. It takes a lot of courage to speak so honestly about personal experience, you make me proud to be your Freshman year roommate. Spot on. Really well put.

By the way, you know how we were going to hang out earlier this summer and then I'm a fuck up fucker? Well, we should go get some lunch or coffee sometime because I miss you a lot.

-Kirten

[kjersteno]

(kirten is my new secret online identity. sshhh)

[thecpexperiment]

I miss you a lot too. I'll be pretty free (and in the Brookline area, 'cause I have a dentist appointment in the early afternoon out there) during the day next Thursday...are you gonna be around then at all?

[jonograph]

I, for one, feel so jubilant that you can fully articulately express yourself. It's a great story, well told and well concluded.

But, being a member of the internet, I have to say two stupid things:
1) "Jersey Girl" is Kevin Smith's worst movie
2) This statement, taken out of context, is hilarious: "I’ve gone from confusion, to experimentation, to women, to Anders." I want that temporarily tattooed on my buttock.

But, in all honesty, I'm so very happy for you. I don't think any choice you make can invalidate what's at your center.

[thecpexperiment]

I really don't feel a huge connection with them, mainly because the "ex-gays" I've met believe that being gay is actually morally wrong, and I certainly don't feel that way. I mean, I'm still openly attracted to women, and I always will be. My change, so to speak, just happened -- it wasn't done as a way to achieve eternal salvation, and it definitely wasn't a conscious choice like it was for Brenna or others like her. But, on the other hand, I'm not as judgmental toward Brenna as I thought I might be...though I think that has more to do with the fact that she's just a smart lady and argues her position well, unlike, say, Ted Haggard might.

Does that make sense?

[backstgartist]

First, I'd like to agree with Christine that the second O is Sophomore is totally unnecessary. But adding U's to colour and neighbour are acceptable.

Secondly, I've always thought sexuality was fluid and I applaud you for allowing yourself to love who you want. Kudos! The bunnies in my icon are so happy for you!