Counseling

[thedeflowerer]

So, I had my first counseling session tonight.
Basically she doesn't think I really need it. She told me I have a good support group and that everything I feel is typical for anyone going through a major breakup and that I have it under control. Well fuck. Not that I was hoping to be all effed up, but if this is normal then I seriously don't know

Comments

[goldoyster]

Some people see therapists even if they don't "need" to. I'm surprised this one said that you didn't have to. There are so many different sorts of therapists out there. If you're not too far, maybe you'd like to see my last one, Mindy Handler: 416 487 0716 She's just off Yonge south of Eglinton. She was great for talking about everyday issues, just coping, etc. She has a masters in social work.

[thedeflowerer]

thank you very much for the referral.
I am going to continue with this therapist for the 4 visits because they are free, (covered under my EFAP program) but after that I will certainly give yours a call. It is nice to know that you already had a good experience.

[asimplelife]

You know, I think it's pretty honest of her to tell you that. If she doesn't feel you need it, it's best that she tells you up front and if you still feel you need to see a therapist it allows you to find one that may be able to help you better.

Having said that, my personal point of view is that if you feel you need it, it may be because you inherently know you need to work out some issues and that you need help doing so. So yeah, I think you have a good handle on what you need right now and finding another therapist that you can work with is probably best.

xoxox

[thedeflowerer]

It was pretty honest. I was surprised. I wonder if I was paying for this (I am getting free right now through our EFAP Program) if she would have said the same thing...I am betting not. That would be direct money out of her pocket.
But yes - I agree with your POV. I do feel like I need something otherwise I wouldn't have gone. I almost felt like maybe I was wasting her time.

[miss_bontemps]

Hm.

I have to agree with others. Therapy is one of those things that you definitely should seek out if you 'feel' like you 'need' it.

And bb, everybody is different, 7 months may not be enough for you, for this relationship, to get over things. I don't want to be an ass, but as far as I could tell, this wasn't 'just' a relationship, it had a bunch of personal growth, major decisions and milestones come with it.

[thedeflowerer]

you are right. I was not "just" a relationship at all, but I guess the reality is that it has been over 1/2 a year! I feel like i should be good to go now.