LOL. Love the "make us laugh" pic. It appealed to my creepy odd sense of humor. Good show.
I belonged to dyke_riot...briefly. They were so not very nice to me. It was a few years ago. Apparently my overt femininity was an issue for some. I don't get it. But whatever.
I am still waiting to see what happens with my "application" to dyke_riot. The community seems like it could be a good idea-- but it's kind of mixed up to be saying "Be Queer and Be Proud of Difference" and also be sort of rating on looks or personality or whatever it even is... and so many of them say "no" just because they disagree on one thing. Does that imply that all "dyke_rioters" must have the exact same beliefs? That relates to your mention of censorship. How can a community that's claiming to be open-minded and different also censor based on each individual's personal beliefs?
It's definitely better than some of the scary shallow rating communities out there. But I've heard a lot of horror stories about the people in dyke_riot saying someone isn't "queer enough" or being mean.
Yep, that was one comment I go. I wasn't gay enough. What does that even mean? Even my boyfriend constantly says I don't "look gay". Its kind of frustrating. Which is generally why I don't do too well in the gay community. My physical appearance and my relationship seem to make a lot of them (locally, anyway) think that I can't really be gay.
Ugh I hate that kind of in-community bullying and trying to get everyone to conform. That happens in ethnic/racial communities a lot too. I have been told I'm not Asian enough, not even "hapa" enough (hapa being a somewhat controversial word between part Hawaiians and part Asians), and not gay enough, not Latina enough (which I'm not at all, but people love to assume).
I think it's similar to how people are expected to "act Black" or they get called "oreo" or "act Asian" or get called "banana".
I understand some of it coming from bad personal experiences where someone is just experimenting with you/with being gay/queer/bi/whatever, and then the person goes back to being heteronorm in the most hurtful way possible. I've even had that experience, but after a bit of growing up I decided betrayal hurts no matter who the person leaves you/cheats on you for/with.
Plus isn't it good to encourage people to experiment freely and figure out what does it for them?
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I belonged to dyke_riot...briefly. They were so not very nice to me. It was a few years ago. Apparently my overt femininity was an issue for some. I don't get it. But whatever.
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It's definitely better than some of the scary shallow rating communities out there. But I've heard a lot of horror stories about the people in dyke_riot saying someone isn't "queer enough" or being mean.
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I think it's similar to how people are expected to "act Black" or they get called "oreo" or "act Asian" or get called "banana".
I understand some of it coming from bad personal experiences where someone is just experimenting with you/with being gay/queer/bi/whatever, and then the person goes back to being heteronorm in the most hurtful way possible. I've even had that experience, but after a bit of growing up I decided betrayal hurts no matter who the person leaves you/cheats on you for/with.
Plus isn't it good to encourage people to experiment freely and figure out what does it for them?
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