Attachment parenting?

[thedoughnut]

Lately I haven't picked up Dr. Sears's "Baby Book" to do anything but look something up quickly, like the right dose of acetaminophen. I've been trying to pin down exactly what about the book is making me so angry so quickly these days and I think I've figured out at least part of the reason

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[springlet]

Yep yep.

I'd say more but you've already said it all for me.

[northernlass_se]

I'm horrified after reading that post!! :-o And as horrible as it may sound, in a way I'm so happy to read about your parental nightmares, which continually serve to reassure me that not wanting children was indeed the right decision to make! :-s

[fairoriana]

Amen, sister. Those books, culture, all of it just loves to put the blame on parents. It's way easier than say, changing the culture so that everyone has clean air to breathe (heaven forfend). You can't do everything you're "supposed" to do (which is so different than what our parents were "supposed" to do that I'm really rather skeptical of much of it), and you'll drive yourself nuts crying. You just have to figure out what the best mix is of what works for him and what works for you.

I hope he gets easier soon -- lord willing you may being coming to the end of the colid period.

[chrispina]

eh... i use the bits i like and leave the bits i don't and ignore the preachy bits. dr. sears is pretty religious and he really comes off as preachy in a lot of things he writes. on the other side are parenting books like babywise that expect you to be a drill sargeant to your newborn so that you don't have to change ANYTHING in your life when you have children. i think the path for most people is somewhere in the middle. babies are individuals and no style of parenting is going to work on every one.

if it makes you feel better, my mom's eaiest baby was her most difficult teenager. ;)

[laura]

As into AP as I am, I don't actually like Dr. Sears. Too much of an extremist for my tastes. And I have parented all three of my children with fairly similar methods, and...gee, they're all entirely different.

So yeah...Dr. Sears, he makes some good points but I'm not really sure how many babies he actually birthed and breastfed and molded into perfect little babies.