Perhaps I can paraphrase Edison here ... you haven't failed - you've just found quite a lot of ways that didn't work.
I know I've had to put each of my kids safely in their cot and walk away at times, for the sake of my own sanity.
I know at 4 months he's maybe too old to be comforted by it, but my colicky one (the one currently living in Wimbledon, AAMOF) was calmed by a small device that mimicked the sound of a maternal heartbeat from within the womb. I made her a carebear with a special pouch in it to hold the device - but I know you can also get tapes or cds of the same sound. Maybe someone in your mother's group or something could loan you a copy of it to try?
And in the meantime, have a {hug}. It feels like forever while you're going through it, but in the scheme of things, it's a very small blink of time. You will survive, and so will Ciaran.
I'm sure you're not the world's worst mother, in fact, I admire you for your patience.
I wish I could teach you reiki, it might help. I've used it with my niece and nephew a few times when they were upset, and it helped calm them down. Of course, that's no guarantee it would help Ciaran, but it would be worth a try.
I wish I had ideas for you. CIO worked amazingly well for Teagan - we're not there (yet) with Argen but I'm not closed to the option if and when we need it. I'm definitely of the mind that you have to find what works for YOUR kid. Maybe CIO is what you need, maybe it's not, but please don't feel guilty, whatever you do!
ARRRRRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! Heidi you are NOT, I repeat NOT, the world's worse mother!!!!!!!! The world's worse mother takes 3 lines of coke every day and subjects her kid to abuse of the worst possible kind. Just because Ciaran will not sleep doesn't make you the bad guy. We're all only human, Ciaran included. And that means that we all come with our own little quirks and funny behaviours, no matter how old we are. 6 months or 30 years, we all drive each other crazy at times, only at 30 we're old enough to realise it ;-)) Take it easy. Ciaran will be a little cherub, intelligent, sensible and capable of atomical physics by the time he's 20. Your next kid will be a breezel. And then you'll wonder what all the stress and anxiety was about! ;-) Trust me, I'm gay and will never have kids. I'm fully qualified in such areas, hehe! ;-p
Oh Heidi!! You are most certainly not the worlds worst mother! Bad mothers don't worry at all about thier kids or even bother trying different methods. You are a fantastic mom!
You're meeting his needs by any means neccisary. If the only way he'll sleep is by screaming bloody murder first, then so be it. You do what you have to, to get him what he needs - SLEEP!!
(HUGS) I know it must be gutwrenching, but its ok!
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Perhaps I can paraphrase Edison here ... you haven't failed - you've just found quite a lot of ways that didn't work.
I know I've had to put each of my kids safely in their cot and walk away at times, for the sake of my own sanity.
I know at 4 months he's maybe too old to be comforted by it, but my colicky one (the one currently living in Wimbledon, AAMOF) was calmed by a small device that mimicked the sound of a maternal heartbeat from within the womb. I made her a carebear with a special pouch in it to hold the device - but I know you can also get tapes or cds of the same sound. Maybe someone in your mother's group or something could loan you a copy of it to try?
And in the meantime, have a {hug}. It feels like forever while you're going through it, but in the scheme of things, it's a very small blink of time. You will survive, and so will Ciaran.
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I'm sure you're not the world's worst mother, in fact, I admire you for your patience.
I wish I could teach you reiki, it might help. I've used it with my niece and nephew a few times when they were upset, and it helped calm them down. Of course, that's no guarantee it would help Ciaran, but it would be worth a try.
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I wish I had ideas for you. CIO worked amazingly well for Teagan - we're not there (yet) with Argen but I'm not closed to the option if and when we need it. I'm definitely of the mind that you have to find what works for YOUR kid. Maybe CIO is what you need, maybe it's not, but please don't feel guilty, whatever you do!
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You're meeting his needs by any means neccisary. If the only way he'll sleep is by screaming bloody murder first, then so be it. You do what you have to, to get him what he needs - SLEEP!!
(HUGS) I know it must be gutwrenching, but its ok!
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