It is hard to make ourselves vulnerable to people. I am like that sometimes. Usually after I've shared something really personal and start thinking the other person will think I'm crazy or pathetic or whatever. Online especially.
Do you wish that you could be more open to deeper relationships? Or are you okay with where you are at this point in your life?
Good question about wanting deeper relationships. I really don't know.
I always have that fear of relationships jumping the shark. It's like I (or the other person) can say one wrong thing and suddenly things go all downhill.
BUT....I was also thinking that one way around the jump-the-shark thing is I think I'd have to actually spend time with someone.
I think I need time to adjust to meeting someone I know from online.
It's not even just with "Stangers". I became penpals with my cousin. We'd write to each other all the time....through mail, we were best friends. But then when we'd get together in real life (about once a year) I'd feel super shy with him. I think the shyness is made worse by the fact that we wrote to each other. Because we both shared personal things.
I think just talking to someone on the phone or meeting one day for a quick lunch wouldn't work for me. But I think if we spend an extended amount of time together.....
Not that I'm going to invite myself to stay with you in Housten for a week. But if my family ever goes up there, maybe we can meet for a fullday. Go to lunch. Hang out at some tourist place, etc. By the end of the day, I might be over my shyness. Or maybe not.
I have met several cousins since I retired, but really only one relationship has 'clicked.' We stop and eat with them and spend the night nearly every time we go to Arkansas. He and I share Skipper great grand parents. He's older, but his wife is my age. She is sweet and liberal and is part of a Quaker group. It helps that Ann likes them, too.
I have met several LJ people in real life and it seems that now I don't communicate with them as much as I did before we met. I don't know why that happened. (Well, I have an idea about some.)
I tend to shy away from deep reationships as well. I know Im lonely. I see other women and how pretty they look and wish I could be like them. I see other people holding hands with their boyfirned/girlfriend and I want that too. I think Im to shy and have nothing to talk about. I have gotted used to the fact that I will be single for the rest of my life.
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Do you wish that you could be more open to deeper relationships? Or are you okay with where you are at this point in your life?
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Feeling vulnerable.
Good question about wanting deeper relationships. I really don't know.
I always have that fear of relationships jumping the shark. It's like I (or the other person) can say one wrong thing and suddenly things go all downhill.
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I have talked to penpals and online pals and it always turns out bad for me.
It's always ackward.
It has almost always been a jump the shark thing for me.
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I think I need time to adjust to meeting someone I know from online.
It's not even just with "Stangers". I became penpals with my cousin. We'd write to each other all the time....through mail, we were best friends. But then when we'd get together in real life (about once a year) I'd feel super shy with him. I think the shyness is made worse by the fact that we wrote to each other. Because we both shared personal things.
I think just talking to someone on the phone or meeting one day for a quick lunch wouldn't work for me.
But I think if we spend an extended amount of time together.....
Not that I'm going to invite myself to stay with you in Housten for a week. But if my family ever goes up there, maybe we can meet for a fullday. Go to lunch. Hang out at some tourist place, etc. By the end of the day, I might be over my shyness. Or maybe not.
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I have met several cousins since I retired, but really only one relationship has 'clicked.' We stop and eat with them and spend the night nearly every time we go to Arkansas. He and I share Skipper great grand parents. He's older, but his wife is my age. She is sweet and liberal and is part of a Quaker group. It helps that Ann likes them, too.
I have met several LJ people in real life and it seems that now I don't communicate with them as much as I did before we met. I don't know why that happened. (Well, I have an idea about some.)
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But you never know what fate has in store for you.
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