On Attraction and Interpersonal Relationships

[thefumoffu]

To start, I think that attraction comes when we recognize things about someone consciously and subconsciously. When we sense traits that we can identify with, or we find admirable, or charismatic, we become interested and attracted. Ever notice that people who can express a sense of self clearly, through a combination of means, physical appearance

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[robertorgasmli]

How do pheromones fit into this? It's true that physical characteristics and actions are interpreted in certain ways by the mind, which then leads to a mental reproduction of the person in question, but how would reception of pheromones fit in with this mental image

[thefumoffu]

Oh you make a lot of sense

[thefumoffu]

Thank yee :D I am definitely making an effort to post more haha, it definitely helps organize the thoughts. And yeah, its definitely been too long since we've talked! I'll call you sometime or something :)

[xkiseki]

Maybe because we all subconsciously aspire to self-actualization we find people closer to that goal than we to be attractive?

I had an interesting discussion with someone lately about charisma. He differentiated between "charisma" and "character." My opinion was (and still is) that charisma is the name for the general quality about a person that somehow attracts other people to them (without speaking of how it came about). But he said that that's not charisma, that's character. Charisma, on the other hand, is when people have a lot of influence/a large following, but they need to keep doing things to make themselves appear attractive in order to maintain their following. Entertainers and celebrities, for instance, have charisma.
Character, however, is a natural quality that doesn't require "upkeep." Jesus Christ had character.

I'm not sure I agree, but I thought it was interesting in connection to your post. Please write more! I do so enjoy reading these.