Comments | thegrungediva: Latest Counselling Session

thegrungediva

Latest Counselling Session

Feb 10, 2009 22:03

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butterfly February 11 2009, 07:27:51 UTC

As I think I mentioned in this blog, the counselor who saw Jason and me, after our 2nd session, felt we didn't need any more couple counseling, but wanted to see me for one-on-one if I was up to it and/or interested.

Perhaps you mentioned it in a private entry? I hadn't even known that you'd already had your second counseling visit! Last I heard, it was all still the aftermath of talking about the first one. I'm a bit baffled at the counselor's decision, to be frank. Does he think that Jason has no issues to work on?

So I have zero practice at recognizing or naming my emotional needs. I experience them, but rather than deal with them, I put them aside as "silly" feelings, and/or try to explain them away. I've never really studied them, or given them any more attention than a good parents gives to a child throwing a temper tantrum. I definitely agree that you should find out what your emotional needs are and arrange to have them met. From what I remember from the oh, so many counseling visits that I have gone to in my life, ( ... )

thegrungediva February 11 2009, 18:54:09 UTC

Thanks for your comments.

To answer your question, the counselor did not say that Jason has "no issues". On the contrary, we identified many issues for both of us to work on. In the first session, the counselor gave us tools to work on those issues, and at the second session it was clear that Jason was using those tools. For example, after the first session, whenever I said, "Hey, Jason, I have a question" or something like that, he would put down whatever he was doing, look me in the eyes, and say, "What's on your mind?" So, he is already taking those lessons to heart.

The counselor wanted to see me again to talk about some of the stuff I dealt with in my second marriage. He said he suspected there was more there that hadn't been explored, and it turns out he was right.

I've never looked at counseling as a bad thing. I think it's great that I'm dealing with these issues.

butterfly February 11 2009, 19:01:32 UTC

To answer your question, the counselor did not say that Jason has "no issues". On the contrary, we identified many issues for both of us to work on. In the first session, the counselor gave us tools to work on those issues, and at the second session it was clear that Jason was using those tools. For example, after the first session, whenever I said, "Hey, Jason, I have a question" or something like that, he would put down whatever he was doing, look me in the eyes, and say, "What's on your mind?" So, he is already taking those lessons to heart.

Keeping in mind that I don't believe I've seen Jason since he started counseling (and therefore, he could indeed be, a New Man (tm).), I suppose I'm just startled that the counselor would decide that in only two sessions, especially if the intake session went anything like the ones that I've experienced in the past.

Again, keeping in mind that I haven't seen Jason since y'all did the counseling.