loss?

[thenextkant]

I think I want to largely lose a friendship that had and (may still) mean a great deal to me. But, I don't know if that's right or what I actually want.
What I do know is that I don't want to become my father, who discards difficult people.
But, staying in this friendship as is means largely discarding a valuable aspect of me.
What to do...what to

Comments

[charnaharna]

It's hard, love. To some extent, you can only do so much to be there for someone until they need you to be the person they are. Then both people lose some sort of identity. At the same time, those identities are forever linked. I think that, becuase you're moving away, space will serve as a buffer for a bit. Let whomever it is (hope it's not me - would my face be red) know that you are available but not constantly. Sometimes a drop in icy water is enough for someone to want to try and get warm again.

Love and miss you, hoorah Chicago!

xoxo