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[theshiversbaby]

My philosophy on emails, phone calls, IMs, etc. from past girlfriends or boyfriends that you know are "risky":

If you're ready to accept and deal with the mess you will create, write/call/IM back.
If you are happy and you are living a life you wouldn't want to see disrupted, then don't

Comments

[anonymous]

I am sorry. -Daniel.

[iamjustjules]

bad correspondence from ex's really makes me wanna take a dump on their legs.

have you heard about the aussie's new cellular capability? if you dial in 303 before a given phone number you cant dial it for 12 hours. i think this idea should've been put in use years ago. especially in the 18-26 demographic

[theshiversbaby]

That is an AWESOME capability. No more drunk dialing!

(On second thought, though, half the fun of getting drunk is making drunk dials. But NOT to exes.)

[crueltywhite]

i'm of the opinion that an awkward convo can put past drama to rest. i've had some bad breakups and years late when the wounds were totally healed i found that i wish my ex's well and i wanted them to know i have no hard feelings.

[theshiversbaby]

Hm...for me, it's a thin line between having an awkward convo to let them know I have no hard feelings and letting them back into my life. And I hope this doesn't come off as a blanket statement - I'm friends (or at least on good terms, even if we don't hang out all the time) with the majority of my exes. There are a couple, though, who I think it's better not to be friends with at this point, for a number of reasons. And I probably will have "hard feelings" for one for the rest of my life. The others, though - it's just that I don't want to re-open wounds for either of us and I don't see any need to dig up the past. I don't know though. I'm only 20. I have no idea, really.

[crueltywhite]

You're totally right that you don't want to let everyone back into your life. I guess the context of the phone call is important. Sat night at 2am is different from a call around Christmas wishing happy holidays.

as for having hard feelings for the rest of your life.. I don't want to come off sounding like I think I'm wise at the age of 26... but even now I find events at college to be distant memories and I have nothing but fondness or maybe some bemused headshakes at how dumb we were as drunk-ass college kids. It's in human nature to forgive.

agree

[exquisitemayhem]

I have absolutely no desire to communicate with any of my exes anymore. If you're in a new relationship, why bother with the past? Doing so just complicates things.