better ...

[thesynergizer]

i had just finished a textbook lovely bedtime with alli (24 minutes, no crying at all! but not a nap crash either, late enough that i was fairly confident that it would stick, but early enough that i didn't want to kill myself) when i heard a quiet thumping. i could not even fathom that she could have gotten up ... i had just left and she was out

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[katielovesjoel]

How far away is Everett from Kent?

[thesynergizer]

50 miles.

it's 45 minutes in the middle of the night and an hour plus in traffic. especially if you are by yourself and can't use the carpool lane.

[katielovesjoel]

The only reason I ask is because 45 minutes to an hour isn't really THAT much driving. Plus, car time can really be quality time. When you're not used to it, it can be a lot.

When we first moved up here, our place was so far out. It sometimes took 45 minutes just to go to Target. We drove a ton, because it was either that or total isolation. At first Rosemary was a bear in the car. She was crying and having tantrums and driving me crazy. Then I got smart and put a toy bag in the car. There's a magna doodle, various books, toys that only get played with in the car. I also threw away what I wanted to listen to in the car and started playing kids CDs. Before I knew it, that time in the car was fun bonding time.

Besides, it sounds like the kids want to see Stephen more just as much as he wants to see them more. So, what's worse? Spending more time in the car or less time with their dad? I'm guessing they'd both pick car time.

[thesynergizer]

well, ben does great in the car and you're right i'm sure he'd say it's worth it. and it's not that alli cries or anything (like ben did at her age OMG) but its that she takes random naps. so too much car time or car time at the wrong time leads to her being up super duper painfully late.

(although, that's kind of been happening anyway ... hmm. thank you for your perspective. i take this into consideration ...)