When is love worth fighting for?

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I sit here and ask myself this question, which in a way is painful for me simply because I need to ask. I used to know. I used to have an immediate answer at the ready but now… now I sit here and second-guess and doubt and wonder

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[tisca]

Some questions aren't meant to have answers or they have different answers for different ppl. This is one of those things. Love fuels us to figt (I think you already covered that part. And like your thoughts on how letting go is also a way of fighting for love). You love it when the teacher doesn't have your head for being late so you fight with all those ppl in line to get on the bus first. Ok, bad analogy. The point is when love is worth fighting for you automatically know not because there's some divine signal but because without you even realizing it that love is already fueling you to fight for it. Love and relationship are connected but different. For a relationship you need to fight together. Did that make sense? Might not have cos naive teenager here. I keep ranting in your lj don't I?

[thspace_between]

Awww Tis, you've made valid points and my journal is open to all to vent or rant or just plain comment whore.

I don't mind at all. That is why I leave the entries I write open =)

[kimrae1977]

Sorry for your friend...if she doesn't try as much as he does, or at all, there's not much he can do. You can't make someone want to be with you

[thspace_between]

Oh hun! I feel you! My last relationship, we broke up (his doing) but for months and months afterwards, the love was still very much prevalent. It was never about losing the love or the love fading because it was the love that took the longest to let go, even 6 months after we were already broken up.

At least on his part.

For me, its still an ongoing thing and though its easier today than it was even 3 months ago, I still miss him like mad and some days it hurts enough to cry, though I don't let myself. Its been 9 months...and I feel every single one of those days but I go on and when someone mentions him and his new girlfriend, I try to smile and I try to think good thoughts because in the end, I just want him happy.

[kimrae1977]

8 years for me, so there isn't anything personal anymore...just the missing of that *kind* of thing. And I get jealous sometimes that he has a better life than I do, LOL. Really had to end it when I was starting to feel more like his mom than his fiancee, though! He was just too young.

But, silly me rebounded into a relationship I'm still in. Wonder some days if I'd still be here under different circumstances in life...He's a mess, but there's tons of history by now, so what can you do? ;)

Moral of my life is not to date guys younger than you..at least not in your 20s.

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Mine will be 24 in April.

[aa_eve_aa]

When I read your entry yesterday afternoon you made me cry a bit. *sniff* I'm sorry for your friend, but it seems the old saying "sometimes love isn't enough" matches them, especially when he is the only one fighting. I know that feeling and I think because of that, I actually can't leave you a big comment here stating my point, because I still have that fight within me, and the feelings change almost from day to day, week to week. One day I'm all "yeah, let's fight for it!" and the next "is it worth it, all the heartache?" And maybe, I'm the one that should be letting go off, that should be set free, which means I should let go too. huggles Babe PS is there a way to screen my comment? *blush* Evelyne

[thspace_between]

I screened it sweetie and to me, you are never worth letting go of.

Just thought you should know.

*hugs tightly*