Asperger's question

[tiamary]

Does anyone on my list have Asperger's  (and is willing to talk about it) or know someone with Asperger's or a similar syndrome?

If so, could you please give me some advice as to the best way to respond to an adult with an Asperger's-like syndrome when he asks a rude question or says something unkind?  Such as "How hard is it to get it right?" or "

Comments

[placeofinsanity]

I work with kids who have MR (mental retardation) and asbergers as well as having several friends with the diagnosis. Whenever someone who has the diagnosis says something rude or unkind or tells you "you're being stupid" don't become defensive.

Most of them, they don't mean it and it's their way of trying to communicate with you. Many times, they have a specific way of doing things, inside their minds, and if you aren't doing it the same way, they can get offended - or yell. Ask them, "how would you like me to do it," or "I'm sorry I don't understand."

Granted they could also be an unpleasant sort of person who is using their diagnosis to be mean but either way - don't respond in kind. That will only make it worse! :D Hope that helps!

[tiamary]

Yes, thanks very much!

[tiamary]

Thanks for your input. It's been very helpful.

[jacks_m8]

As hurtful as the words may sound to you, the person does not know that what he/she is saying is rude. Do not retaliate back by saying anything in your defense(which is what most people would want to do).

The best thing is to divert the attention to something else. I had worked with down syndrome and Asperger's children and they honestly don't have a clue what they are saying is offensive and rude.

IF you are in a situation where you could walk away, that would be the a way to avoid any confrontation. All you have to say is"I'll be right back"...or "excuse me, I have to take care of something right now"

Good luck

[tiamary]

Sorry I took so long to respond. Thanks for your input, it was helpful!