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Sep 12, 2005 23:13

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Leaving you a message tyciol September 12 2005, 21:33:47 UTC

In reply to:
http://www.livejournal.com/community/rape_survivors/57641.html?thread=214825#t214825

Yes, that's exactly what I was looking for! You used the experience as inspiration to lead a better more aware life. Thanks for understanding :) I suppose the examples I gave were too violence-oriented, because this is another way to heal and get past it, with self-kindness rather than forcing yourself to change to be aggressive, yet still not withdrawn or weak.

Re: Leaving you a message tianna_ivymoon September 13 2005, 04:51:40 UTC

You also have to realize that everyone heals differently. Even I had a period of stress and turmoil after my rape and it took time to realize the spiral that my life was becoming. I was determined to be the person I wanted to be and so I turned it around with help. Some people don't get that far but it may not be weakness just a lack of resources. I had loving friends and family to help me. Not all victims and survivors do! Most rape victims and survivors to not resort to violence (self or otherwise). If anything they withdraw into themselves or seek comfort in unhealthy ways - drugs, multiple sexual partners, etc.

Re: Leaving you a message tyciol September 13 2005, 13:20:17 UTC

Hmmm... excellent point, the purpose of such communities would be to substitute or supplement loving friends. I think that friends can substitute for family, so that covers it all.

What I was looking for were people who were coping free of unhealthy habits. They post about them, but I find it hard to accept the sincerity that they want to stop.

Re: Leaving you a message tianna_ivymoon September 13 2005, 20:44:54 UTC

So long as they find comfort, they will continue the behavior. Unless something negative happens, they will not change. I changed because I realized that my actions were of no benefit to me in my life, school or career!

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tyciol September 13 2005, 21:07:44 UTC

In reply to: http://www.livejournal.com/community/rape_survivors/57453.html

I still have a problem with RAINN statistics. For example, how many rapes go unreported. What that actually means is the number of people who claim to have been raped but did not press charges for it. The only fair thing to claim in statistics for rape, are those that are legally prosecuted or testified to have happened.

Furthermore, it is not a good representation of the rape numbers as there may be girls who not only never reported it, but will never admit it, which skews the statistics.

tianna_ivymoon September 13 2005, 21:55:36 UTC

For now, this is the best we have. Until society stops placing blame & stigma on the victim, we cannot expect women to happily admit that they were raped!