For Kara
Ok, Kara. Here is what I know about your relationships
- You seem to care about Tom very much
- He seems to care about you
- You have had a past of getting involved with heartbreak
Here is what I know about relationships in general
- To be able to stay sane in a highschool relationship, one must remain somewhat independent
- Becoming too dependent on a relationship at this point could lead to disaster
- One must have love and support from friends to make a relationship work
- One must be prepared for a break up
- One must learn from experience about these things
Here is what I'm beginning to fear and see in you
- You have learned nothing from your past relationships, except that you have been heartbroken
- You are becoming far too dependent on your relationship with Tom
- In doing this, you are digging your own grave and begging to be hurt AGAIN
- If/when this does happen, you will be a horrible mess, and I will be the one trying to help you
- You don't seem to really appreciate the fact that I am giving you good advice as friend
- If the above is true, you do not value and appreciate our friendship.
This is my intervention. I love you, Kara. I want you to be happy. Clearly, Tom makes you happy. I'm glad for this. But right now, you are getting in too deep, and it is my duty as your friend to prevent you from going any deeper. I'm not saying 'break up with Tom'. I'm not saying 'I hate Tom'. What I am saying is, take a step back and think! You need to connect the dots, notice the red flags and talk things out with Tom to see where you stand. I don't know if I want to be around to see you heartbroken again.