Why am I unhappy?

[tofusushi]

Why am I unhappy? Surprise accompanies this question because I thought moving away from Northern Virginia would solve things for me. I hated my office job, the cold and dreary weather, the traffic congestion, the materialism, the way everyone was so busy all the time.

Comments

[alil_perplexing]

I used to feel the same way, I sometimes do now. I realize it is what you make of life. I think you have to make the effort to change life. Like on the weekends get out there and do what it is you dream of doing. FInd things that make you happy. If you are only part time now, there should be some solution. I know how "in a rut" life can get. It really doesn't matter where in the world you are, YOU have to make YOU happy. This is just what I realized through so many bouts with unhappiness and where I am in my life. I thought coming back to Hawaii would make me happy, it didn't because it really didn't matter where I was, it mattered what I was doing about me. Take that min to decide what is important and where will you have the most success and why. I hope you are feeling better! Much love and aloha!!!

[tofusushi]

Yes, I think I'm shocked that my life didn't automatically fix itself by moving to a new place. I still have to make other choices or my life will be just the same!

Yes, I'm going to start by going to the Yoga classes twice a week at my gym. I've always wanted to do Yoga, just never made the committment.

=) Janelle

[alil_perplexing]

Yoga is alot of fun, but I am too shame to go to a class so I have dvd's and a book. I personally love ty-boe too. Just make sure you do things on your down time that interst you and aren;t a chore and I bet you wil feel lots better. You will feel like you are doing something worthwhile! Aloha!

[pepfin]

Maybe you should go back to therapy? Did it help you at all? It sounds like you have some issues to resolve, and no amount of "pep talk" is going to help you in the right direction. I think that one of the most important things I have ever learned (is just to love and be loved in return... oh... wait...) no - not that... what I learned was that you have to learn how to LIVE IN THE MOMENT... stop regretting the past and setting goals for yourself that you have to feel guilty for not meeting. I have found that you often live in the past or the future, never content with the now. I am not sure if anyone can teach you to do that... but no matter where you go, it is a good skill to have.

[tofusushi]

I would LOVE to go back to counseling again but Kaiser doesn't cover it. My counselor back in Virginia charged $115 for 45 minutes if you didn't have insurance.

Yes, living in the moment is the key. I have to release all these expectations I have for myself. Tonight I will sit by the ocean and remember how thankful I am to be able to do something like that. When I was in VA I longed to see the ocean, and now I can, but I dont' take advantage of it as much as I could.

[deleriumgirl]

I think you need to move back to Maui :) *coughcoughhinthint*