My Master List of Kinks
took this idea from starshipbadass, who got the master list from here. these are both RL and fanfiction kinks of mine. my Super Kinks are in bold, possible italics for further emphasis.
some of these are probably very obvious from my fics. just so you all know.
• Abuse (sexual, emotional, and/or violent childhood abuse; past abusive relationships; character A's abuse drives character B into arms of character C; the wounded child as an adult archetype)
• Accidental stimulation (proximity and friction; involuntary arousal; situations of adrenaline and reflexes)
• Adrenaline and crises (pre-, mid-, or post-crisis sex; speed-freaks or adrenaline junkies; near-death experiences; the shadow of impending death--hours, minutes, or moments; see also Situational engineering)
• Alpha males (alpha/beta male pairings; alpha/alpha pairings; het alpha males)
• Amnesia
• Anal sex (face to face, from behind, bottom riding top; standing; bent over desk; gay or straight; girl-on-boy with strap-on; girl-on-girl with strap-on)
• Angst (see Emotional themes)
• Animal themes or fetishization (physical transformation, e.g., animagi or werewolves; animalistic features; hirsutism as a fetish; tentacle sex; quasi animal forms such as centaurs, merfolk, intelligent dragons; pets, wild or domesticated; familiars; men showing affection toward animals, e.g., holding kittens, or nuzzling their horses; see also Otherness)
• Anti-heroes (sympathetic villains; villains with principles; noble demons; enemies who keep their word)
• Aphrodisiacs (see Intoxication and altered states)
• Ass-play and/or fetishization (ass lifted in the air for penetration; emphasized by harness or blue jeans; ass slapping; spreading cheeks; rimming)
• AUs (alternate characterizations and situations; sex between alternates of one character or between different characters; alternates as catalysts for realization of desire; role reversal; darker mirror universe characters; mistaken identity)
• Bad boys (punks, rebels; see also Rogues)
• Bad girls (dirty girls; naughty schoolgirls; femme fatales)
• Bar and club scenes (dancing, cruising, etc)
• Barebacking
• Baths and water (tubs or jacuzzis; hot springs; bath houses or steam rooms; the ocean; swimming pools; see also Washing; Shower sex)
• BDSM
• Begging or offering (begging or pleading for mercy, for sexual release, to be taken; a character offering himself; neediness)
• Beloved enemies
• Big guy/little guy (also seme/uke)
• Biological imperative (pon farr or mating drive; being in heat)
• Bisexuality
• Biting (marking, nipping, chewing)
• Blindness (see Voyeurism and vision themes)
• Blow-jobs (oral sex, fellatio)
• Body fetishes not listed elsewhere (ears, muscular arms, breasts, bald heads, collarbones, cheekbones, bare feet or chest, etc; fatness, plumpness, softness; skin, e.g., weathered, tanned, soft)
• Body-painting or inkbrushing on someone's skin
• Bondage
• Breath (as a caress; hitching or ragged; indrawn breath or gasps; sighs)
• Canon (canon elements/canonicity heightens characterization or scenario)
• Catalysts (e.g., character A shows interest in character B, which makes character C realize how hot B is; or other catalytic events bringing about such an epiphany)
• Charisma (see Powers of attraction)
• Coming out of the closet (see also Gayness; Orientation issues; Witnesses)
• Coming without being touched
• Confessions (revelation of love/desire; of other secrets; truth or dare games. deathbed confessions; revealing truths when feverish)
• Courting and dating (courtship rituals; dating; blind dates; personal ads; traditional gestures such as flowers and chocolates; unusual gestures designed to win someone's attention; showing off or displaying prowess; rivals seeking a character's favor; see also Seduction)
• Crossovers (characters thrust into other universes; canon universes merged; sex between characters played by same actor)
• Crush or unrequited love
• Crying, sobbing (erotic and non-erotic)
• Cuddling (see Touch)
• Death (fatal illnesses; heroic death; character death in general; survivor guilt and grief; ghosts and haunting; vampires; Thanatos as the personification of death; Thanatos as the death wish; death orgasms; gothic aesthetics; immortality or aging as it relates to death; reincarnation)
• Discomfort during sex (rough edge of a table as counterpoint to pleasure; cold stone versus hot flesh; position is uncomfortable at first but then becomes perfect; penetration is painful, then pleasurable)
• Disorders (phobias; neuroses; obsessive-compulsive disorder; see also Insanity; Emotional themes)
• Emotional themes, emo-kink (angst; wallows; darkfic; emotional damage; psychological trauma; tragic pasts; broken characters; guilt and shame; mental instability; sadness and grief; abandonment or fear of same; characters who can't go home again; fear in general; nightmares; loneliness; broken-heartedness; failure; insecurity; self-hatred; self-mutilation such as secret cutting; suicide; see also Insanity)
• Endearments (see Names)
• Enemies working together
• Fake rake (a man falsely rumored to be promiscuous, who isn't; romance novel term)
• Finger-fucking (as preparation, foreplay, accompaniment, or main act)
• Fish out of water characters/scenarios
• Flirting (conscious or unconscious; with glances or touches; banter)
• Foreplay
• Friction or frottage (naked or clothed; masturbatory or with partner; cocks rubbing together; tribadism; intercrural sex; someone rubbing off on sheets while giving head or being fucked; itchiness and scratching; chafing clothes; friction while on horseback or riding a motorcycle; accidental contact)
• Friendship and affection (gestures of friendship; epic friendships a la Gilgamesh/Enkidu or Alexander/Hephaistion; friendship as pre-slash)
• Friendship sex or buddy-sex (fuck buddies)
• Gayness (self-identification as gay; gay pride; queer culture; homophobia; see also Orientation issues)
• Geeks and nebbishes (Peter Parker or Clark Kent characters; computer geeks; lab rats; nerds; intellectuals; personal secretaries; beta males; sidekicks; men in glasses; oddballs and eccentrics)
• Gentleness (tenderness; kindness; concern; gentle natures; characters who display sensitivity to fearful children, animals, the weak, etc; gentle responses at unexpected moments)
• Happiness (startled joy; passionate gratitude; ecstasy; comfort; happy endings)
• Healing or comfort sex (post-rape or abuse; affirming life in the midst of death; captives turning to one another for comfort; one character soothing another who is deeply upset or fearful)
• Heat (hot lazy summer days; steamrooms; sweat-slick skin; tempers rising with the heat; urgent fucking a la Body Heat)
• Heroic gestures (nobility; self-sacrifice; risking self to save someone's life; Gift of the Magi scenarios; taking the partner's place for torture; trading sexual favors to guards to procure food or medicine for partner; heroic deaths)
• Hot spots (a special spot that make someone crazy when stimulated, such as the vampire spot on the neck, the backs of the knees, the inner arms, navel, or earlobes)
• Humor (funny banter, screwball comedy, etc)
• Humor as a mask (characters who hide pain behind humor)
• Hurt/comfort (emotional and/or physical, including torture of all kinds and degrees, and any form of caretaking)
• Insanity (involuntary or false committal; characters appearing insane when their beliefs or fears are real; sedation and restraints; asylums; dementia; therapy)
• Intelligence (quick wit; street smarts; Machiavellian cleverness; Sherlock Holmesian deductive powers; geniuses; experts; criminal masterminds; see also Special powers and skills; Geeks and nebbishes)
• Intimacy
• Intoxication and altered states (aphrodisiacs; drugs or alcohol; sex pollen/spores; substances or devices that create arousal, affection, or dependency; speaking or showing the truth while intoxicated; visionary states)
• Jewelry (decorative and/or symbolic; wedding rings; earrings; slave bracelets; piercings)
• Kissing, necking
• Love and passion (falling in love; love at first sight; one true love; eternal love; unconditional love; star-crossed lovers; tempestuous passions)
• Love/hate relationship
• Massage
• Messiness and markers of arousal (mussed hair; flushed cheeks; swollen mouth; displaying bite marks or hickeys; clothes in disarray; sprawling; come-spattered skin)
• Mindfuck, mindgames
• Mirrors
• Multiple orgasms (See also Sexual appetite or excess)
• Music (singing; playing an instrument such as guitar or piano; composers; rock stars or bands; groupies; song lyrics)
• Neck fetishization (nape of the neck, throat, hickeys, etc)
• Noise (screaming or yelling during sex; whimpering or sobbing; purring, growling; slurping or moaning enthusiastically during blow-jobs)
• Non-consensual or semi-consensual sex (sexual extortion; bribery; reluctant or ambivalent partner; bondage and struggle; no means yes; other consent issues)
• Oral fixation or fetishization (lips, tongue, or whole mouth; french-kissing; licking; oral displays using food or beer bottles; smoking cigarettes, cigars, or pipes; biting or chewing one's lip(s))
• Orgasm denial
• Orientation issues (confusion; discovery and coming out; self-hatred; two-beer queers; homosexual panic)
• Patience (e.g., showing patience toward a character who is brain-damaged or who is struggling bitterly with being recently crippled; or to a character prone to irrational fear or outbursts; patience with children; see also Gentleness)
• Penance or reform (bad boy turns good; evil seeks to change; performing acts of atonement or restitution; self-mortification; martyrdom; selflessness; apologies or apology sex)
• Physical responses (face or ears burning; little hairs lifting on the scalp or neck; gut tightening; pulse quickening or missing a beat; lashes fluttering or lids growing heavy; mouth coming open; dick or pussy throbbing)
• Pillow biting
• Possessiveness or jealousy
• Prostate pleasure
• Prostitutes (call-girls and hookers; rent boys and hustlers; escorts; paying one's way through school with sideline hooking; juvenile past on the streets)
• Protectiveness (physically or verbally defending someone; caretaking in general; big guy/little guy pairings; bodyguard scenarios; mysterious benefactors or protectors)
• Public displays of affection, PDAs
• Rescue (danger and rescue in general, e.g., abductions)
• Restraint (pinning someone down; pushing someone's arm up behind their back during sex; covering or clasping someone's hands to prevent movement)
• Rimming or tongue-fucking
• Romance (see Love and passion; Courting; Seduction)
• Rough sex (quick and dirty sex; hate or grudge sex; angry sex; fighting/wrestling; jackhammer fucking; sex with no or little lube)
• Sadism or sadomasochism
• Scent as an erotic element
• School themes and fetishization (boarding schools; dojos; scholarly gowns and uniforms; sailor fuku; prep school chic; teacher/student pairings; donnish or professorial characters; prefects/head boys; caning; schoolboy hijinks or sexual discovery; military academies; tutoring and teaching in general; see also Conditioning)
• Secret admirers
• Secret identity (superheroes, slayers, immortals, mutants, etc; disguised gender; spies)
• Seduction (one-on-one; two-on-one; verbal or physical; intense erotic courtship or teasing; see also Courting)
• Sensory overload or enhancement
• Sex in vehicles (cars, taxis, limos; planes or space shuttles; motorcycles; carnival rides)
• Sex with clothes still on or partly on
• Sexual frustration (orgasm denial or being unable to come; blue balls; enforced abstinence; self-denial; inability of two people to touch)
• Sexual movements (back arching; hips lifting; thrusting back; writhing, jerking, bucking; clenching; grinding or rocking; trembling or shivering; hooking legs around shoulders; pressing someone's legs back toward the bed; riding someone's fingers)
• Sharing (sharing a beer bottle, joint, or bucket of popcorn; loaning someone clothes; a character letting someone stay in their home; sharing confidences; sharing a woman)
• Shower sex
• Sixty-nine (69)
• Sleep and bedding themes (sharing a bed by necessity, such as in a hotel with only one room left; sharing a sleeping bag for warmth; sex while drowsy or sleeping; sex as a sleep aid; autonomic arousal from proximity; morning wake-up sex, falling asleep against someone's shoulder; watching someone sleep; dreams; nightmares; dream lovers, e.g., succubi; exotic or romantic beds, e.g., canopied; furs as bedding; silk sheets)
• Slow and/or prolonged sex
• Smiles or laughing
• Snark
• Spooning
• Striptease
• Talking and communication issues (dirty talk or verbal seduction; sweet talking; reciting poetry; talking someone to orgasm; talking during sex; pillow talk; phone sex; speech becoming broken as one is aroused or upset; being inarticulate or articulate; aphasia; talking fast; miscommunication and misunderstandings in general; lack of a shared language; see also Silence; Clams; Voice fetishization)
• Taste as an erotic element
• Teasing or tickling
• Tentacle sex
• Threesomes (M/F/M, M/M/M, etc)
• Topping from the bottom
• Touching (stroking and caressing; cuddling or nuzzling; huddling for warmth; hugging; holding hands in public; touching as UST; brief brushes of contact either deliberate or accidental; PDAs; thighs brushing under a table; comic physical entanglements; someone gripping a wounded character's hand)
• Tragic flaws
• Trapped or stranded together (on another world; on a desert island; in a cave-in; in a cabin during a snowstorm; in an elevator)
• Triangles (love triangles)
• Triangulation of desire (two men express their desire for each other through a female intermediary; sexual rivalry for a woman is actually homoerotic interest)
• Undressing (undressing in front of someone for the first time; one character undressing another; fumbling clumsily to get undressed; stripteases)
• Urgency for sex (begging to suck cock; desperate to fuck; greedy bottom)
• Voice fetishization (cracking or broken; husky, low, throaty; purring; accents; whispering close to someone's ear)
• Washing (washing one's partner, body or hair; bubble baths; shower scenes; slave service in bath; cleaning/cleansing someone who's been raped, degraded, or who is injured)
• Well-fucked (being fucked out; fuck-dazed; sated and sleepy; wrecked; softened and debauched)
• Writing (love letters or notes; secret admirers; e-mail and chat; wills; poetry; storytelling; tracing words or figures on skin, or writing, as with an inkbrush)
some of these are probably very obvious from my fics. just so you all know.
• Abuse (sexual, emotional, and/or violent childhood abuse; past abusive relationships; character A's abuse drives character B into arms of character C; the wounded child as an adult archetype)
• Accidental stimulation (proximity and friction; involuntary arousal; situations of adrenaline and reflexes)
• Adrenaline and crises (pre-, mid-, or post-crisis sex; speed-freaks or adrenaline junkies; near-death experiences; the shadow of impending death--hours, minutes, or moments; see also Situational engineering)
• Alpha males (alpha/beta male pairings; alpha/alpha pairings; het alpha males)
• Amnesia
• Anal sex (face to face, from behind, bottom riding top; standing; bent over desk; gay or straight; girl-on-boy with strap-on; girl-on-girl with strap-on)
• Angst (see Emotional themes)
• Animal themes or fetishization (physical transformation, e.g., animagi or werewolves; animalistic features; hirsutism as a fetish; tentacle sex; quasi animal forms such as centaurs, merfolk, intelligent dragons; pets, wild or domesticated; familiars; men showing affection toward animals, e.g., holding kittens, or nuzzling their horses; see also Otherness)
• Anti-heroes (sympathetic villains; villains with principles; noble demons; enemies who keep their word)
• Aphrodisiacs (see Intoxication and altered states)
• Ass-play and/or fetishization (ass lifted in the air for penetration; emphasized by harness or blue jeans; ass slapping; spreading cheeks; rimming)
• AUs (alternate characterizations and situations; sex between alternates of one character or between different characters; alternates as catalysts for realization of desire; role reversal; darker mirror universe characters; mistaken identity)
• Bad boys (punks, rebels; see also Rogues)
• Bad girls (dirty girls; naughty schoolgirls; femme fatales)
• Bar and club scenes (dancing, cruising, etc)
• Barebacking
• Baths and water (tubs or jacuzzis; hot springs; bath houses or steam rooms; the ocean; swimming pools; see also Washing; Shower sex)
• BDSM
• Begging or offering (begging or pleading for mercy, for sexual release, to be taken; a character offering himself; neediness)
• Beloved enemies
• Big guy/little guy (also seme/uke)
• Biological imperative (pon farr or mating drive; being in heat)
• Bisexuality
• Biting (marking, nipping, chewing)
• Blindness (see Voyeurism and vision themes)
• Blow-jobs (oral sex, fellatio)
• Body fetishes not listed elsewhere (ears, muscular arms, breasts, bald heads, collarbones, cheekbones, bare feet or chest, etc; fatness, plumpness, softness; skin, e.g., weathered, tanned, soft)
• Body-painting or inkbrushing on someone's skin
• Bondage
• Breath (as a caress; hitching or ragged; indrawn breath or gasps; sighs)
• Canon (canon elements/canonicity heightens characterization or scenario)
• Catalysts (e.g., character A shows interest in character B, which makes character C realize how hot B is; or other catalytic events bringing about such an epiphany)
• Charisma (see Powers of attraction)
• Coming out of the closet (see also Gayness; Orientation issues; Witnesses)
• Coming without being touched
• Confessions (revelation of love/desire; of other secrets; truth or dare games. deathbed confessions; revealing truths when feverish)
• Courting and dating (courtship rituals; dating; blind dates; personal ads; traditional gestures such as flowers and chocolates; unusual gestures designed to win someone's attention; showing off or displaying prowess; rivals seeking a character's favor; see also Seduction)
• Crossovers (characters thrust into other universes; canon universes merged; sex between characters played by same actor)
• Crush or unrequited love
• Crying, sobbing (erotic and non-erotic)
• Cuddling (see Touch)
• Death (fatal illnesses; heroic death; character death in general; survivor guilt and grief; ghosts and haunting; vampires; Thanatos as the personification of death; Thanatos as the death wish; death orgasms; gothic aesthetics; immortality or aging as it relates to death; reincarnation)
• Discomfort during sex (rough edge of a table as counterpoint to pleasure; cold stone versus hot flesh; position is uncomfortable at first but then becomes perfect; penetration is painful, then pleasurable)
• Disorders (phobias; neuroses; obsessive-compulsive disorder; see also Insanity; Emotional themes)
• Emotional themes, emo-kink (angst; wallows; darkfic; emotional damage; psychological trauma; tragic pasts; broken characters; guilt and shame; mental instability; sadness and grief; abandonment or fear of same; characters who can't go home again; fear in general; nightmares; loneliness; broken-heartedness; failure; insecurity; self-hatred; self-mutilation such as secret cutting; suicide; see also Insanity)
• Endearments (see Names)
• Enemies working together
• Fake rake (a man falsely rumored to be promiscuous, who isn't; romance novel term)
• Finger-fucking (as preparation, foreplay, accompaniment, or main act)
• Fish out of water characters/scenarios
• Flirting (conscious or unconscious; with glances or touches; banter)
• Foreplay
• Friction or frottage (naked or clothed; masturbatory or with partner; cocks rubbing together; tribadism; intercrural sex; someone rubbing off on sheets while giving head or being fucked; itchiness and scratching; chafing clothes; friction while on horseback or riding a motorcycle; accidental contact)
• Friendship and affection (gestures of friendship; epic friendships a la Gilgamesh/Enkidu or Alexander/Hephaistion; friendship as pre-slash)
• Friendship sex or buddy-sex (fuck buddies)
• Gayness (self-identification as gay; gay pride; queer culture; homophobia; see also Orientation issues)
• Geeks and nebbishes (Peter Parker or Clark Kent characters; computer geeks; lab rats; nerds; intellectuals; personal secretaries; beta males; sidekicks; men in glasses; oddballs and eccentrics)
• Gentleness (tenderness; kindness; concern; gentle natures; characters who display sensitivity to fearful children, animals, the weak, etc; gentle responses at unexpected moments)
• Happiness (startled joy; passionate gratitude; ecstasy; comfort; happy endings)
• Healing or comfort sex (post-rape or abuse; affirming life in the midst of death; captives turning to one another for comfort; one character soothing another who is deeply upset or fearful)
• Heat (hot lazy summer days; steamrooms; sweat-slick skin; tempers rising with the heat; urgent fucking a la Body Heat)
• Heroic gestures (nobility; self-sacrifice; risking self to save someone's life; Gift of the Magi scenarios; taking the partner's place for torture; trading sexual favors to guards to procure food or medicine for partner; heroic deaths)
• Hot spots (a special spot that make someone crazy when stimulated, such as the vampire spot on the neck, the backs of the knees, the inner arms, navel, or earlobes)
• Humor (funny banter, screwball comedy, etc)
• Humor as a mask (characters who hide pain behind humor)
• Hurt/comfort (emotional and/or physical, including torture of all kinds and degrees, and any form of caretaking)
• Insanity (involuntary or false committal; characters appearing insane when their beliefs or fears are real; sedation and restraints; asylums; dementia; therapy)
• Intelligence (quick wit; street smarts; Machiavellian cleverness; Sherlock Holmesian deductive powers; geniuses; experts; criminal masterminds; see also Special powers and skills; Geeks and nebbishes)
• Intimacy
• Intoxication and altered states (aphrodisiacs; drugs or alcohol; sex pollen/spores; substances or devices that create arousal, affection, or dependency; speaking or showing the truth while intoxicated; visionary states)
• Jewelry (decorative and/or symbolic; wedding rings; earrings; slave bracelets; piercings)
• Kissing, necking
• Love and passion (falling in love; love at first sight; one true love; eternal love; unconditional love; star-crossed lovers; tempestuous passions)
• Love/hate relationship
• Massage
• Messiness and markers of arousal (mussed hair; flushed cheeks; swollen mouth; displaying bite marks or hickeys; clothes in disarray; sprawling; come-spattered skin)
• Mindfuck, mindgames
• Mirrors
• Multiple orgasms (See also Sexual appetite or excess)
• Music (singing; playing an instrument such as guitar or piano; composers; rock stars or bands; groupies; song lyrics)
• Neck fetishization (nape of the neck, throat, hickeys, etc)
• Noise (screaming or yelling during sex; whimpering or sobbing; purring, growling; slurping or moaning enthusiastically during blow-jobs)
• Non-consensual or semi-consensual sex (sexual extortion; bribery; reluctant or ambivalent partner; bondage and struggle; no means yes; other consent issues)
• Oral fixation or fetishization (lips, tongue, or whole mouth; french-kissing; licking; oral displays using food or beer bottles; smoking cigarettes, cigars, or pipes; biting or chewing one's lip(s))
• Orgasm denial
• Orientation issues (confusion; discovery and coming out; self-hatred; two-beer queers; homosexual panic)
• Patience (e.g., showing patience toward a character who is brain-damaged or who is struggling bitterly with being recently crippled; or to a character prone to irrational fear or outbursts; patience with children; see also Gentleness)
• Penance or reform (bad boy turns good; evil seeks to change; performing acts of atonement or restitution; self-mortification; martyrdom; selflessness; apologies or apology sex)
• Physical responses (face or ears burning; little hairs lifting on the scalp or neck; gut tightening; pulse quickening or missing a beat; lashes fluttering or lids growing heavy; mouth coming open; dick or pussy throbbing)
• Pillow biting
• Possessiveness or jealousy
• Prostate pleasure
• Prostitutes (call-girls and hookers; rent boys and hustlers; escorts; paying one's way through school with sideline hooking; juvenile past on the streets)
• Protectiveness (physically or verbally defending someone; caretaking in general; big guy/little guy pairings; bodyguard scenarios; mysterious benefactors or protectors)
• Public displays of affection, PDAs
• Rescue (danger and rescue in general, e.g., abductions)
• Restraint (pinning someone down; pushing someone's arm up behind their back during sex; covering or clasping someone's hands to prevent movement)
• Rimming or tongue-fucking
• Romance (see Love and passion; Courting; Seduction)
• Rough sex (quick and dirty sex; hate or grudge sex; angry sex; fighting/wrestling; jackhammer fucking; sex with no or little lube)
• Sadism or sadomasochism
• Scent as an erotic element
• School themes and fetishization (boarding schools; dojos; scholarly gowns and uniforms; sailor fuku; prep school chic; teacher/student pairings; donnish or professorial characters; prefects/head boys; caning; schoolboy hijinks or sexual discovery; military academies; tutoring and teaching in general; see also Conditioning)
• Secret admirers
• Secret identity (superheroes, slayers, immortals, mutants, etc; disguised gender; spies)
• Seduction (one-on-one; two-on-one; verbal or physical; intense erotic courtship or teasing; see also Courting)
• Sensory overload or enhancement
• Sex in vehicles (cars, taxis, limos; planes or space shuttles; motorcycles; carnival rides)
• Sex with clothes still on or partly on
• Sexual frustration (orgasm denial or being unable to come; blue balls; enforced abstinence; self-denial; inability of two people to touch)
• Sexual movements (back arching; hips lifting; thrusting back; writhing, jerking, bucking; clenching; grinding or rocking; trembling or shivering; hooking legs around shoulders; pressing someone's legs back toward the bed; riding someone's fingers)
• Sharing (sharing a beer bottle, joint, or bucket of popcorn; loaning someone clothes; a character letting someone stay in their home; sharing confidences; sharing a woman)
• Shower sex
• Sixty-nine (69)
• Sleep and bedding themes (sharing a bed by necessity, such as in a hotel with only one room left; sharing a sleeping bag for warmth; sex while drowsy or sleeping; sex as a sleep aid; autonomic arousal from proximity; morning wake-up sex, falling asleep against someone's shoulder; watching someone sleep; dreams; nightmares; dream lovers, e.g., succubi; exotic or romantic beds, e.g., canopied; furs as bedding; silk sheets)
• Slow and/or prolonged sex
• Smiles or laughing
• Snark
• Spooning
• Striptease
• Talking and communication issues (dirty talk or verbal seduction; sweet talking; reciting poetry; talking someone to orgasm; talking during sex; pillow talk; phone sex; speech becoming broken as one is aroused or upset; being inarticulate or articulate; aphasia; talking fast; miscommunication and misunderstandings in general; lack of a shared language; see also Silence; Clams; Voice fetishization)
• Taste as an erotic element
• Teasing or tickling
• Tentacle sex
• Threesomes (M/F/M, M/M/M, etc)
• Topping from the bottom
• Touching (stroking and caressing; cuddling or nuzzling; huddling for warmth; hugging; holding hands in public; touching as UST; brief brushes of contact either deliberate or accidental; PDAs; thighs brushing under a table; comic physical entanglements; someone gripping a wounded character's hand)
• Tragic flaws
• Trapped or stranded together (on another world; on a desert island; in a cave-in; in a cabin during a snowstorm; in an elevator)
• Triangles (love triangles)
• Triangulation of desire (two men express their desire for each other through a female intermediary; sexual rivalry for a woman is actually homoerotic interest)
• Undressing (undressing in front of someone for the first time; one character undressing another; fumbling clumsily to get undressed; stripteases)
• Urgency for sex (begging to suck cock; desperate to fuck; greedy bottom)
• Voice fetishization (cracking or broken; husky, low, throaty; purring; accents; whispering close to someone's ear)
• Washing (washing one's partner, body or hair; bubble baths; shower scenes; slave service in bath; cleaning/cleansing someone who's been raped, degraded, or who is injured)
• Well-fucked (being fucked out; fuck-dazed; sated and sleepy; wrecked; softened and debauched)
• Writing (love letters or notes; secret admirers; e-mail and chat; wills; poetry; storytelling; tracing words or figures on skin, or writing, as with an inkbrush)