The formula usually consists of two elements: 1) Time 2) Distance
There's a popular theory that for every month you dated, you'll need at least a week of recovery time. That sounds a bit too simplistic to me. I think different people go through the process at different rates.
Otherwise, there's the "bury yourself in your work" method or the "do some rebound dating" approach. Overall it isn't really something you can hurry along. You need to mourn the loss of the relationship just like you'd mourn the loss of anything else important to you. Eventually you'll get past the mourning stage and start feeling ready to let the whole thing go and move on to the next thing.
While rebound dating sounds like an alright idea, I think it's tough for a person who never really dated around in the first place.
There aren't exactly a lot of great options here where guys go anyway; and if there are any good ones, they are probably taken, not looking, or probably not interested in me.
It's gonna be tough any way I look at it, Kevin left some pretty big shoes to fill.
I think the "rebound dating" thing is much easier to achieve in your twenties (when you're out of college).
Two points: 1) There's no reason to sell yourself short. Of course there are guys out there who are/would be interested in you. 2) I think the idea is to remember that when someone else comes along, he'll have different "shoes". No one's going to replace Kevin. But someday maybe you'll meet someone who you really dig for completely different reasons (aka "shoes") and that's good.
I certainly do...but wherever there are men, there are limited good ones. I'm not sure I'll find my next mate here. And I'm stuck here for another year and a half...NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! And then I go on internship...and we'll see what kind of options I have there ;P
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1) Time
2) Distance
There's a popular theory that for every month you dated, you'll need at least a week of recovery time. That sounds a bit too simplistic to me. I think different people go through the process at different rates.
Otherwise, there's the "bury yourself in your work" method or the "do some rebound dating" approach. Overall it isn't really something you can hurry along. You need to mourn the loss of the relationship just like you'd mourn the loss of anything else important to you. Eventually you'll get past the mourning stage and start feeling ready to let the whole thing go and move on to the next thing.
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There aren't exactly a lot of great options here where guys go anyway; and if there are any good ones, they are probably taken, not looking, or probably not interested in me.
It's gonna be tough any way I look at it, Kevin left some pretty big shoes to fill.
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Two points:
1) There's no reason to sell yourself short. Of course there are guys out there who are/would be interested in you.
2) I think the idea is to remember that when someone else comes along, he'll have different "shoes". No one's going to replace Kevin. But someday maybe you'll meet someone who you really dig for completely different reasons (aka "shoes") and that's good.
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